I have a friend who is slightly over 6 feet tall, he’s a pretty tall guy.
He once asked a girl out and she rejected him pretty harshly, telling him that she was attracted to taller guys.
When he told me that I was surprised at first, but then I started thinking.
If my tall friend was too short for her, how do actually short people handle these situations?
Suffice to say, he took it pretty hard.
He even started believing that maybe he was too short and that there was something wrong with him.
Yeah, this coming from a six-footer.
His problem wasn’t about his actual height, it was about his perceived height.
Some studies suggest that, for males, any demographic that is even slightly shorter than average already has an increased risk of depression and suicide.
Our height is something that we can’t really change.
We need to learn to live with our height, for better or for worse, and a lot of people have trouble doing just that.
It’s true that Shorter Men Tend to have certain problems that are unique to them, but for the most part, these problems can be overcome.
So what problems are we dealing with here?
So we’ve established that Shorter Men definitely have their own struggles to face, but that’s only the first step.
In order to know how to deal with these problems, we need to identify them first.
As it turns out, when it comes to their mental state, shorter men people face two specific problems in particular:
- Men sometimes tend to draw their confidence from their physical aspects. As such, being shorter than average can hurt their self-esteem
- From a physical point alone, women tend to be more attracted to taller men (on average)
This makes getting into a relationship much harder.
Being too short can hurt your self-esteem
One truth about men is that we want to fit in, yet stand out at the same time.
Men tend to have much higher testosterone when compared to women and that tends to make us more competitive, prideful and energetic.
Those qualities lead guys to measure themselves against their peers on a regular basis.
Often times, those measurements and comparisons focus on the more physical aspects.
How many times have you seen a guy who would lie about how many pull-ups he can do? How many times have you seen guys try to make themselves seem taller, add another inch to their height if they thought they could get away with that?
Unfortunately, where there’s pride there can also be wounded pride.
Studies show us that people who see themselves as short tend to feel inferior and become much more self-conscious and fearful of how others see them.
Some guys even become paranoid and irritable, hiding their own insecurities with aggressive behavior.
This is what we call a “Napoleon Complex”.
Being short makes getting into a relationship much more difficult
My friend got rejected by some girl based on his height, which is something that can happen to everyone.
different women have different tastes, but there does exist a general consensus about how tall should a guy be.
As it turns out, women generally think that the ideal height for a guy is 5ft 11in. In other words, not too tall, not too short.
Based on this data alone, anything shorter than 5ft 11in is less than ideal.
According to them, being any shorter than 5ft 4in is considered to be too short for comfort, to the point where many would consider those guys undateable.
The dating site AYI.com analyzed 50,000 interactions between males and females over the course of two months.
According to their findings, even at best, the likelihood for a woman to initiate contact with a guy that’s 5-foot-9 or shorter is only 5.4% at best.
The fact is that most women just don’t like short guys, they aren’t as physically attractive to them.
The problem here is twofold:
- The inability to get into a relationship can be very frustrating. Many guys want to enter a genuine and loving relationship but they get constantly rejected instead.
- Rejection can be really hard to deal with. Some studies even claim that rejection activates the same parts of the brain as physical pain does.
Getting constantly rejected can make guys lose their confidence and decrease their self-esteem.
So, how can you overcome your height-related depression?
Contrary to popular belief, it is more than possible to overcome any of those problems.
In the end, the thing that holds shorter guys the most is their perception of their height.
They allow their height to affect their mindset and confidence, and as a result, this affects many other aspects of their lives.
The truth is that attractiveness and positive self-image are drawn from a variety of factors, only a few of those have to do with a person’s height.
Being short can actually be pretty great!
We as humans tend to always see the worst in any given situation.
If something is good we will complain that it’s not great, if something is great we will be frustrated that it isn’t perfect.
This situation is no exception.
Despite the disadvantages that short guys have, their height also gives them quite a few benefits:
- They live longer
- Their height reduces the risk of blood clots and even cancer
- Their divorce rates are significantly lower
- They are reported to have the most sex with their partners
As you can see, shorter men tend to be healthier and have more stable relationships.
Be the best version of yourself that you can be
When it comes to attracting women, your height is only one criterion out of one of multiple categories of things that you can take pride in.
Even then, you can certainly do a lot to improve your physical aspects as a whole.
Being short is a disadvantage, and you can’t do anything to be as tall, or taller, than others.
But you can be more fit and better dressed than them.
But even that isn’t a necessity.
Sure, taking pride in your physical aspects can be very important to our male pride, but women sometimes care about it a lot less than we do.
Studies show that physical attraction isn’t as important to women as it is to men.
Guys who are funny, charismatic and confident are very successful with women, more so than physically attractive guys who don’t have the same qualities.
The truth is that the average guy doesn’t stand out in any particular way.
Any guy who puts at least some effort into self-development is bound to stand out from the crowd, regardless of his height.
By being the most exceptional guy in the room you will draw the attention of women and the adoring gazes of your fellow men without even trying.
Honestly, if that’s not a confidence boost then I don’t know what is.
Now, I am by no means an expert on the subject, but I do know someone who is.
Brock from “The Modest Man”, a blog that helps shorter men achieve success in love and life, wrote a great article on how to be attractive regardless of your height.
Be sure to check it out, his advice is some of the best you’ll find.
Being a short man is hard
Look, being a short guy isn’t easy, but it isn’t worth worrying about either.
Actually, worrying isn’t going to help you at all.
One idea I believe in that the only problems that you should focus on are the ones that you can do something about.
If you can’t do anything about your problem then you should waste your time worrying about it.
You worrying about it isn’t going to change anything, so you really shouldn’t bother.
On the other hand, if you can do something about your problem then it is your responsibility to do it.
And in this case, you certainly can.
We’ve established that shorter men tend to have issues with their self-image and confidence, and there’s plenty to be done about that.
The best way to improve your self-image is to be the best version of yourself that you can be.
There are many ways to stand out of the crowd (in a good way), and the majority of them are within your reach.
Focus on things like your fitness, sense of humor and relationships and you will get results.
And sure, getting into a relationship in the first place may be more difficult for you, but keep in mind that shorter men tend to have overall better relationships.
In other words, your efforts are going to pay off.
In the meantime, I got a question for you: What are you going to do next?
It’s important that you take action because without it nothing is going to change.
Make sure to write your answers in the comment section below, I always enjoy reading them.
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