The quiet, stoic type is a winner.
Most of us have had a friend who was quiet and may have been a bit awkward at times, but always proven that they were the most caring, loving person they’ve ever known. They’re gems of people who often end up working in health field, or end up being the “rock” we all need in life.
The Myers-Briggs Personality spectrum categorizes everyone into specific personality groupings, all based on the main personality traits they own. In the Myers-Briggs personality type spectrum, this is known as an Isfj personality type.
ISFJ stands for Introverted, Sensing, Feeling, Judgment — and together, those four traits make for one of the rarest personality types in the world. Known as the “Defenders,” this quiet personality type is made of truly altruistic people.
Wonder if you’re an ISFJ, or what it does for your love life? These traits suggest you’re an ISFJ and then you can find out what to expect from the dating scene when you are out and about.
1. Still waters run deep with you.
Though you’re a very kind, loving person, most people assume you’re stoic and a bit of a loner. In fact, most people tend to assume you just don’t like them, primarily because you’re more into being alone than you are being around people.
However, this isn’t true. You tend to be very emotional, but that’s all underneath the surface. Heartbreak hits you harder, but then again, so do the good sides of love.
2. People tell you that you’re remarkably quiet.
Do you have a hard time actually making conversation with people? Are you much more likely to want to listen than talk? Chances are, you have an ISFJ personality, since this personality type boasts the quietest folks around.
3. When it comes to friends, quality is more important than quantity for you.
While most people are snapping up a bunch of friends on Instagram, that kind of stuff never really appeals to you. You only really consider a few people to be your friends, but of those friends, you know that they will always be around for you.
4. Should someone hurt a friend or a loved one, you’ll end up making them regret it.
If anything else, an ISFJ is the best friend to have when someone has done you wrong. They often will end up defending their friends from bad people, or even going so far as to clock them.
An ISFJ will never tolerate seeing their friends being treated poorly and will often go out of bounds to make it stop, even if their friends beg them not to.
5. You’re not focused on the shallow parts of life.
Looks don’t really matter to you too much. You’re way more into a person’s personality than anything else. This is because the ISFJ tends to focus on the big picture rather than the small picture.
6. The idea of being a superhero to one or two people tends to make you smile.
If anything else, Isfjs often daydream about saving the day. They’re natural problem-solvers and often are the ones people go to when they want reliability. This is true when they’re dating or when they’re on the job.
7. Though you can always be counted on to be there for your loved ones, you also have a tendency to be unpredictable.
ISFJs are known for being reliable, but only up to a point. The problem with them is that they can be very moody and broody, which, in turn, can make them very unpredictable in relationships. This tends to be their downfall. An impulsive ISFJ can easily burn all their bridges in a single night.
8. You’re known for being a true altruist at your best.
If you’re an ISFJ, you put others before yourself all the time and feel your happiest when you are helping others. This is why a lot of ISFJs tend to gravitate toward careers in health, education, environmental science, and social work. They really want to make a difference — and often do.
9. At your worst, you’re a raging fireball who lashes out at people.
Angry ISFJs are not attractive — at all. They often will unleash verbal attacks that they later regret, simply because they don’t know how to handle their own emotions when they’re brought to the brink of anger. Sometimes, ISFJs may take an equally cutting tactic, by stonewalling the person they argue with.
10. People often take advantage of you.
Because of their good nature and your tendency to “take the higher ground,” ISFJs are infamous for being taken advantage of. Thankfully, they quickly become observant and guarded when it comes to their attention and affection, and are known for leaving bad relationships pretty quickly as a result of it.
11. You’re shy.
Shyness is the calling card of the ISFJ. But if you are one, you already know that.
So, what does this mean for your love life? Well, with the right partner, an ISFJ can quickly become a knight in shining armor, or the loving partner that people often assume don’t exist.
They are, by nature, very sensitive and good-natured people who are hard to upset and extremely empathetic towards others. So, if you’re looking for a partner who gives great gifts, loves to pamper their partners, and always do what they can to be a “hero,” look no further than an ISFJ.
However, the problem with ISFJs is that they tend to be shy to the point that they don’t know how to approach people they like. They also may be a bit impulsive, moody, and awkward at times, which also can make them pretty bad at having a confrontation or argument.
Needless to say, more than one ISFJ is known for their unpredictable behavior because they don’t know how to handle their emotions well enough.
Overall, there’s some good news and bad news. The bad news is that ISFJs may have to work on themselves and come out of their shell when they want to find The One. The good news is that, once they tackle their shyness and broodiness, they will be the best damned partner you can ever get — and the person who’s wise enough to see that will be a lucky one, indeed!