When we are involved, the theory loses strength. The impulse gains strength. Passion dominates the mind and there is little room for reason.
Often, we come into contact with remnants of past behavior, repeating the same mistakes. We transfer the responsibility, hoping that the other will make us happy. We even gave up our needs and wants, believing that this sacrifice can bring some benefit to the novel. Ledo mistake!
But, we can learn to love the other and not give up. Love and respect us.
Staying with the other while it is good, while generating growth, awakens a smile, respect, companionship, pleasure and well-being.
A chat, a little prose – as my dear fellow countrymen say! A chat about love! Because love is good and deserves poetry, music, prose and verse!
And the purpose of this conversation is to deepen and broaden your understanding and knowledge of yourself, your past experiences, what you are living in your love life now or what you want to live. Remembering that every relationship is alive and needs care. And it is natural that it is so. It is very good when we take care of the relationship with affection, when we see this care as something good because we love the person, because we want it to work and we are willing to invest our time, our emotions and give us the opportunity to learn.
This article does not claim to conclude the matter. Each couple has their own code, secrets, myths and truths. Our goal is to help you find and decipher your own choices and behaviors that you are not always aware of.
When we broaden the vision, without the intention of seeking blame or accusing, but with the desire to Improve the relationship, we may find that we are repeating the mistakes of the past, comparing, insisting on behaviors that will not bring good results. We can also discover that we are acting like our parents, repeating their patterns and even the same attitudes.
Whatever it is, whatever you discover and perceive, it is from there that change can begin. What is hidden has no power of transformation. When it reveals itself, when we “see”, we gain strength and can change.
Some attitudes that can work to improve your relationship:
1. When partners establish a relationship, each brings their individuality. Preserve yours and respect the individuality of your love. In this way, the couple becomes stronger.
2. Try to resolve conflicts and pain from past relationships. The current relationship will not bear the pain of the past. We see this in the Systemic Constellations. Poorly resolved relationships can lead to conflicts in the current relationship.
3. Keep in mind your place and role in the relationship. Love is compromised and weakens when a partner acts with the other trying to educate, improve or help him as if he were the mother, the father, treating him like a son (a).
4.It is very important that the relationship has a balance between giving and receiving. When each one does his best, both feel respected and satisfied. When this does not happen, there is room for accusations, emotional blackmail, crises of jealousy, neediness, feelings of abandonment, etc.
5. Avoid exposing your relationship. Be careful who, what, how and what you say about your relationship and your partner. This is part of the respect.
Sexuality is an important factor in the relationship and deserves attention and care from both. Remembering that charges and criticisms only keep your partner (a) away.
Dialogue is always the best way. If necessary, seek therapeutic help.
Couple Therapy has excellent results and benefits for the couple’s understanding.
Look at your love.
Get to know more about the person you love.
What are your dreams, desires, difficulties, goals.
It is very good when friendship is part of the relationship.
I wish you be happy!
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