The first time I Heard this, I was flattered. I thought my date must think I’m sexy, attractive, appealing and special.

Now I’ve heard this too often on the first or second date. In the beginning, I wondered, “He barely knows me. How does he know he wants to get intimate?”

I was naive.

Only after sitting with a date in an outdoor cafe and his pointing out how many of the passing Women he’d “do,” did I have a new perspective. He identified about half of the passersby as women he’d have sex with.

While I’d like to believe he was an outlier, his behavior was corroborated by more men than not. At least those men dating over 40. Perhaps non-daters have less libido. Or married men have reined it in. Or some are too classy to admit it out loud.

Now when a man tells me he’d like to make Love to me, I’m not flattered. I understand that he could (and perhaps has) said that to dozens and dozens of women. The gals who took it as a sign that she was special, as I did in the beginning, may decide to do the horizontal tango with the man not realizing she wasn’t as special as she’d thought.

When you have dated someone only a few times, have you interpreted “I want to make love to you” as a sign that you were really special to that man? Have you learned otherwise after the fact when he didn’t call or continue to date you? What advice do you have for others who might hear that after only a date or two.