I seem to have, somehow, ended up with quite not an Open Minded boyfriend. which is particularly funny, since i am one of the most open minded girls you could be in a relationship with.
there are many things i have opinions about, stereotypes about and many things that I would react badly to just because society has taught me so for over 30 years. however, i am also inquisitive and my love for new experiences trumps all of my previously strongly held opinions.
there is nothing i wouldn't give a try at least once in order to have an informed opinion about no matter how bad i think it might make me feel. i have pleasantly discovered through this method that most things are definitely worth the experience.
so i don't hold any strong views on marriage, children, roles of men and women. relationships are the hardest, but even there, i can say i have often questioned the actual existence and meaning of monogamy and all things that are consensual between 2 grown adults.
i try not to pass judgement and when i do, i analyse it and try to get rid of it as much as i can.
well.... that is not the case for some people. and it seems weird that i would ever choose to be in a relationship with a man who is so obtusely obtuse that he doesn't even have the curiosity to ask details or clarifications about my desires and interests before dismissing them.
pure Dismissal and when presented with the perspective of at least experiencing something in order to get an opinion about it, the dismissal comes straight away in the strict form of not needing to experience it to know that something is not for you.
which might be the case if you had a transgender operation done. i would highly recommend not doing that for the sake of the experience trying to find it if it's for you.
but if your girlfriend tell you she's interested in BDSM - as in, she wants to tie you up to the bed and do "things" to you.... and you don't even care to find out what those things are... then.... where can she really go from there?
limits, fear, boundaries and sticking to the well known. familiar and safe. that's his world. how do i fit my break everything you can, know or think you believe in mentality into those boundaries?
there are many things i have opinions about, stereotypes about and many things that I would react badly to just because society has taught me so for over 30 years. however, i am also inquisitive and my love for new experiences trumps all of my previously strongly held opinions.
there is nothing i wouldn't give a try at least once in order to have an informed opinion about no matter how bad i think it might make me feel. i have pleasantly discovered through this method that most things are definitely worth the experience.
so i don't hold any strong views on marriage, children, roles of men and women. relationships are the hardest, but even there, i can say i have often questioned the actual existence and meaning of monogamy and all things that are consensual between 2 grown adults.
i try not to pass judgement and when i do, i analyse it and try to get rid of it as much as i can.
well.... that is not the case for some people. and it seems weird that i would ever choose to be in a relationship with a man who is so obtusely obtuse that he doesn't even have the curiosity to ask details or clarifications about my desires and interests before dismissing them.
pure Dismissal and when presented with the perspective of at least experiencing something in order to get an opinion about it, the dismissal comes straight away in the strict form of not needing to experience it to know that something is not for you.
which might be the case if you had a transgender operation done. i would highly recommend not doing that for the sake of the experience trying to find it if it's for you.
but if your girlfriend tell you she's interested in BDSM - as in, she wants to tie you up to the bed and do "things" to you.... and you don't even care to find out what those things are... then.... where can she really go from there?
limits, fear, boundaries and sticking to the well known. familiar and safe. that's his world. how do i fit my break everything you can, know or think you believe in mentality into those boundaries?
