Yes, of course, it’s possible.

When this happens to us, what has changed is our expectations of how others will interact with and treat us.

Our goal is to be proud of our own identity and feel comfortable expressing it while at the same time thoroughly expecting full acceptance from others.

This is how we began life. This is the normal condition for all life.

Life comes from within.

When we can honestly expect to be allowed that natural right (to live from within) from others, and at the same time are willing to grant that same right to other people, our own inner Strength can return.

Our biggest obstacle may be our own resistance to allowing others their freedom. Once subservient, it’s difficult to imagine life as it is meant to be, and as it works best for everyone.

Supporting life in its drive to come from within will be difficult in our present Environment. Humans have grown to expect obedience. It’s our paradigm these days.

Our identities have no place to exist in the presence of obedience though. They aren’t allowed. Without our identities, we also live without our Instincts. Our instincts are the sum total of human experience from the very beginning.

To be the best person possible, to feel good, to feel powerful, and to be resourceful and confident, we want full connection with our inner life!

Too many of us know all too well how bad it feels to be so helpless we can’t stand up for ourselves.

The more people we have in our immediate environment who have rules and expectations for us that don’t match who we are, the more difficult it is going to be to recover our strength.

If we are one of those people as well, it’s impossible.

Our social environment is really important. For those of us who lost our inner strength, that’s what happened. Our environment was unhealthy. That’s how important our environment is.

A therapeutic environment is a good place for recovery. It allows, respects, and encourages our real nature.

Otherwise, we need to learn to see who other people really are, so we can avoid those who would cause us to abandon our instincts to please them.

There are still many of us around who welcome the genuine nature of other people. Even one of these people in our social circle makes a huge difference. It allows our world to make sense.

When granting others the right to be their own identity, it is particularly important to do so with the very young. At the moment humanity doesn’t allow this. Our young do not get to live their own identity.

That’s the reason people are so troubled and lacking morals these days. Without our instincts, we lose our sense of right and wrong. We forget how much we need others, and we behave with wild abandon.

Taking care of ourselves comes down to socializing only with others who permit and value our real nature. To do that, it is up to us to also be that kind of person. Otherwise, it remains in their best interests to avoid our disturbance in the normal flow of life.

They will avoid us!

This is the path to feeling strong. Living in this way is astonishingly different from normal life today.

This brings us back to the strength we enjoyed as an infant. Joy is always in the background.

Thanks for listening.

Good luck on your journey.

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Take care,

Norm Cormier

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