2021-11-16 15:32
People tend to justify some inappropriate secret-keeping with the self-righteous claim that, “It’s no one’s business,” or–better yet–“It’s pri… Read More
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2021-11-12 03:10
This morning while rinsing out my hair color, the 1957 commercial for Clairol home hair dye sang into my imagination’s ear: “Does She or Doesn’t She? Only her hair dresser… Read More
2021-10-12 14:21
What are some warning signs you can and should learn to pick up on early in the relationship, signs that the person you are with is a controlling partner? As a general indicator, a huge warn… Read More
2021-10-04 14:14
Well, I never really knew you ’til you said goodbye~Vince Gill If you want to know something about bereavement that slides from ‘normal’ to ‘complicated’ in a m… Read More
2021-09-09 14:38
So if you’ve spent some time thinking about it, in an organized fashion, you’ll probably realize that there are fundamentally only four different permutations of ways to divide f… Read More
2021-08-17 14:20
When a distressed couple looks to me to referee their repeated argument, the lyrics from “Ah Yes, I Remember It Well”(“Gigi,” 1951*) sometimes relieve the tension. He… Read More
2021-08-04 14:30
Molly* is a difficult [in my more honest moments I think of her as nearly tyrannical] early adolescent, who makes her mother’s life a horror. She picks on Mom’s clothes, her hair… Read More
2021-08-01 13:37
Let’s address what happens when the ones campaigning for attention of a certain parent are a child–and the new spouse. Look, let’s face it. Your child has very little cause… Read More
2021-07-27 13:29
I’m the only one in my family with a green thumb. I’ve got foster plants from almost every relative, which I’ve nursed back from the vegetative graveyard, and they&rsq&hell…Read More
2021-07-17 13:52
Giving the lie to the common assertion that Congress accomplishes nothing, in the 110th Congress, in 2007, Rep. Albert Wynn, a Democrat from Maryland who represented the 4th district fr… Read More
2021-07-16 05:14
My strongest and most vivid memories are false! It’s rare that we can ever reconstruct what “really” happened, but in two cases, I saw clearly, not through the glass darkly… Read More
2021-07-01 00:14
My strongest and most vivid memories are false! It’s rare that we can ever reconstruct what “really” happened, but in two cases, I saw clearly, not through the glass darkly… Read More
2021-04-23 21:45
By a Guest Blogger Yesterday, I left my 12 year old son at home to go for a walk. Just a quick 20 minutes around the block. When I came back home the house felt eerily quiet. I called my&hel&hell…Read More
2021-04-23 19:25
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Teen suicide–two words that should never appear next to each other. The alarming frequency of this terrifying occurrence has come to public attention during this pandemic. We tell… Read More
2021-04-23 18:57
Yesterday, I left my 12 year old son at home to go for a walk. Just a quick 20 minutes around the block. When I came back home the house felt eerily quiet. I called my son’s name. No a… Read More
2019-06-04 13:45
There’s a group therapy game that offers useful training for a change. The game goes like this: one person–“it”–closes eyes and ears while the group decides on… Read More
2018-11-21 17:05
When I was a girl, I locked my 8th grade diary with a tiny key. My parents, defending rights to their own phone, added a “child’s line” (the actual listing in the phone dir… Read More
2018-05-28 13:22
Guest Blog by Rhona Finkel For nearly 30 years of my life I was bipolar. In fact I would have gone on in that fashion all the years that life gave me except for one small problem&mdas&hell…Read More
2018-05-08 13:32
The MeToo Movement has raised our consciousness yet again, this time about the inability/unwillingness of women to speak out. We are silent for many reasons: shame; fear of losing… Read More
2018-02-05 14:42
The news media–ultimate invader and purveyor of secrets–feasts eagerly upon two categories of secrets: governmental secrets, prominently intended to protect or harm one or… Read More
2018-01-01 18:22
“Eat more crow. Its the most nutritious of all brain foods.” This New Year’s advice from Jason Zweig (WSJ, Dec.30, 2017), although it appeared 3/4 of the way though a longi… Read More
2017-09-28 12:38
When I grew up, people had time. The family ate dinner together when Dad got home– 5:30. We visited the grandparents–both sides–almost weekly. As high school st… Read More
2017-02-05 19:48
I have for years treasured a memory of something precious shared with my father, who died when I was 10. At age seven he told me I was old enough to read “Gone With The Wind,&rdq&hell…Read More
2017-01-17 14:15
Anne Robert’s guest post add important information to my multiple earlier posts on challenges for blended families. Taking a Vacation as a Blended Family Blending families is neve… Read More
2017-01-03 14:12
An important post from guest writer Anne Roberts. Bullying is bad. It’s horrendous to experience, it’s soul-destroying, and it smashes children’s personalities to pi… Read More
2016-12-27 14:03
Dear Dr. Jaffe, Have you ever noticed there can be a lot of “nothing” lying around? I mean, just take my first niece. She went to meet my soon-to-be-sister-in-law who [quite unfo… Read More
2016-12-15 12:42
I hope my readers will learn from this important post written by Anne Roberts. So Your Teen Is Taking Drugs – What Can You Do? Teenage drug taking is a major concern for many pa… Read More
2016-10-14 12:45
I missed National Depression Screening Day on Oct 11. Yom Kippur found itself in the middle of my blogging agenda. Like some college students I’m posting about, my &ldq&hell…Read More
2016-10-13 12:22
My husband won’t take pain medicine. He says it interferes with his thinking–and he’s the thinking type. He’ll stay in bed with one hand over his migraine-achin… Read More
2016-10-11 12:30
Unlike most of the Awareness Months, Weeks, or Days I cover, Mental Health Awareness Week is a grassroots public education campaign–it wasn’t designated by the Senate, it isn… Read More
2016-10-06 12:55
National Mental Health Awareness Week is here again. Unfortunately, what’s new since last year is not an improvement, unless you consider an upsurge in recent news reporting on po… Read More
2016-09-21 12:55
As of 2012, 18% of U.S. children aged 6 to 11 were obese, with many more overweight. The same study reveals almost 21% of adolescents are classified obese. No need to describes th… Read More
2016-09-14 12:45
Last Friday Ms. Clinton received a diagnosis of pneumonia. She kept that information secret. Two days later, she collapsed–in public. Instead of revealing the secret i… Read More
2016-09-08 12:00
Roughly 20% of healthy high school children report they’ve had thoughts of suicide at least once during the previous 12 months, according to Dr. Benjamin Shain, a child and adolescent… Read More
2016-09-01 11:30
The Trump phenomenon (angry haters of the current political/economic system) has got me thinking about anger and emotional health. What to make of this simmering, brimming, and finally… Read More
2016-01-05 11:22
We live today with the two obsessions of a wealthy west: insomnia and obesity. If you’re following my blog (a third obsession–blogging), you’ve seen posts on both. &nb&hell…Read More
2015-10-02 15:47
If you’re starting to get the idea, after being subjected to posts like Running For Your Life: How I View Depression and Exercise and Of Bipolar Disorder, The Hippocampus, and The Retu… Read More
2015-09-21 11:07
Alzheimer’s disease is the leading cause of dementia and the fifth leading cause of death for those 65 and older write Casey, Antimisiaris, and O’Brien in their 2010 ar… Read More
2015-09-02 10:14
Everybody worries about a chubby child. Thin parents and overweight parents, especially those who suffered from fat-kid syndrome themselves. Even Michelle Obama weighs in on this… Read More
2015-09-01 15:38
‘The failure to win “the war on cancer” has been blamed on many factors, … But recently a new culprit has emerged: too many basic scientific discoveries… are… Read More
2015-06-07 10:30
So today is National Cancer Survivors Day. This special day prompts 2 questions:
1. First–What does it mean to be a cancer survivor?
2. And, then, what’s the value of a special d… Read More
2015-06-01 22:15
Remember that old commercial? No, not the one where you should have had a V8. Or even the one where the voice croons to you, “And like a good neighbor. . .” and you can&rsqu&hell…Read More
2015-06-01 10:32
There’s no doubt that I’m the weak link in my family. Sometimes you have no choice in linguistic life but to turn to Yiddish to really say what you want to say.
So I’m not… Read More
2015-05-17 10:02
On Sunday begins the 41st Annual National Suicide Prevention Week.
The American Association of Suicidology is behind the week, and I just love their mission statement, with absolut… Read More
2015-04-07 17:55
I’ve got some men in my life who are seriously big eaters. Forces to be reckoned with. Hosting a barbecue for them requires much advanced planning–plus a significant financi… Read More
2015-03-30 09:02
After over a decade of – granted, very rocky – general stability, I suffered a mental health episode in my late 30s that both came as quite a shock to me and pretty much knocked… Read More
2015-02-07 12:00
Forty-three percent of 1000 marriage partners surveyed this month by Fidelity Investments did not know how much their partner earns. 10% were off by $25,000 or more. Ignorance … Read More
2015-02-05 10:10
More money is wagered on March Madness than on the Superbowl–an expected $9 billion this year. Perhaps that’s why March is Problem Gambling Awareness Month. Betti… Read More
2015-01-22 11:00
Eating disorders come in a bunch of new flavors these days. The DSM V (the newest version of the diagnosis and classification of mental disorders) offers an expanded menu, compared… Read More
2015-01-20 09:49
Looked at from one perspective, eating disorders can seem the domain of the rich and famous, the models and the actresses, of Victoria Beckham and Princess Diana, in reality they are wid… Read More
2015-01-12 10:17
Charlotte was an energetic, exciting, and dominant woman who loved variety. She chose Charlie, her opposite, as a spouse. Charlie ate the same menu almost every day: t… Read More
2014-11-23 22:06
According to the Bowker Books in Print database (courtesy of the WSJ article “New Ways to Get Kids to Behave”), the number of parenting books published or distributed rose fr… Read More
2014-11-23 14:07
Justin worked hard to try not to see what was before his eyes. The mileage on Jesse’s car didn’t add up to what it should have if she had been where she had said she wa… Read More
2014-11-23 13:30
P.T. Barnum had a cynical take on the degree of stupidity manifested by average Americans (“No one ever went broke underestimating the intelligence of the American public.”)… Read More
2014-11-23 12:54
The truth will out, as it always does. Eventually you will know that your partner is commitment phobic. Perhaps you’ll be like Sally, only to discover after umpteen years… Read More
2006-06-07 11:16
Some people like their portions big. We have them to thank for the Big Mac, Bog’s Big Boy, the Burger King’s Triple Whopper Sandwich Meal, and Taco Bell’s Taco 12… Read More
2006-06-07 11:16
I cannot possibly be the only one with a dubious attitude toward matters of the “new” in health: new doctors, new drugs, and, especially, new diseases. I mean, when I was in the… Read More
2006-06-07 11:16
I have always thought of Senator Dick Durban (D), the senior U.S. Senator in IL, as pretty much of a gentleman. In a state where four out of our last 7 governors have been convicted and impr… Read More
2006-06-07 11:16
You know how sometimes it really does strike you that suddenly, right in front of you, is an idea whose time has come? Like, I know not everyone took to this immediately and there was a lot… Read More
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