I’ve been SOLO RVing full-time for over two years. I haven’t been looking for a Relationship but I admit, occasionally I missed sharing my days and experiences with someone special.
I would think that adventurers attract other adventurers. Shared interest and exploration will bring couples together. The lifestyle and the mentality of an RVer is different than most “conventional” people’s, so meeting with someone special that shares your adventurous spirit would make sense, wouldn’t it?
I recently stumbled into a mature relationship. He is smart, caring, reliable with absolutely no drama. We both support each other’s hobbies and let each other live our lives. There’s just one problem. He is not nearly as adventurous as I am. He basically lives a 10-mile-radius life, working night shifts and does not much besides work, sleep, everyday chores, and gym.
I keep thinking that if once he is on the open road with me facing all the possibilities and freedom, he will have fun. But he’s too married to his work and tied to make too much time for playing outside. Is this a deal-breaker?
I live with the philosophy that there’s so much to see, learn and experience. I work remotely so I can operate from anywhere in the world. I am happy living the RV lifestyle in the LA area, weekly going someplace else. One week on the beach, one in the mountains, another one in the desert. I spend my summers with my family overseas and try to travel with my tribe in the winter. I have my favorite places but I Love to discover new ones too. I believe anyone can live this way if they wanted to. There is an amplitude of opportunities if someone is looking for them.
In theory, your partner should have the same interests as you and a complementary personality. But they also say opposites attract. If you find yourself having a very good person in your life then is it wise to rock the boat by nagging about that Road trip? Discovering this major difference between you could bring the happiness to an end, but it could also create new opportunities. It’s a fact that most couples become unhappy when they fall into a boring routine. I fear from that.
We learn what love “should be” from the television and from what other people tell us. We go into a relationship with certain expectations and if we are not getting them we become frustrated. But who made the rule that my partner and I have to do everything together? If he truly makes me happy but doesn’t want to go RVing, then I can go alone or take a friend instead. We can have separate interests and then come together to share them with each other. Maybe the stories of my adventures will even entice him into trying it one day. As the quotation says above; mature people help each other to be free instead of creating bondages.
Real relationships require compromise and for every crazy adventure, there should also be stay-at-home movie nights, quiet dinners, and the seemingly pointless, mundane conversations. You will never be able to control who you fall for, and if they like the same things as you, that is great. If they are not, then time will only tell.
There is more to love and life than hitting the road so the real failure would be missing a good thing that is standing in front of me. Besides, the road trips do not have to end and the RV doesn’t have to be sold, I could just change the lifestyle a little bit. I can still have my adventures part-time while he has his. The best part of a relationship is sharing and we will both have stories to tell as we make separate and joint memories.
What do you think? Can something like that work in your opinion?
