by Crystal Presence

Disengaging from Addictive Control and Lying

We know we are in the biggest shift in human consciousness, and also strive to be part of the resolution. Yet, with all our good intentions, we find ourselves repeating what we know is part of the problem. We engage in our old controlling and Addictive ways of thinking, feeling, and behaving. When we get honest with ourselves, we admit to the voice inside telling us we are lying as a way to tolerate our lives.

We love the idea of letting go and going with the flow. At the same time, we fear that our lives will fall apart and we will end up alone and die if we disengage from the addictive control.

Addictive Control and Our Feelings of Powerlessness

Control has become the culturally acceptable way of dealing with our feelings of powerlessness. We also sense the pervasiveness of how it affects our lives and our world. We look for pathways to create a new context of living and know we will be happier and healthier when we can do the following:

• Remain present and honest with ourselves.
• Admit when the jobs we have are not right for us.
• Spend our days doing the things we love to do.
• Spend more time with the people we love.
• Take better care of ourselves.

Let go of thinking what we should do, and allow ourselves to follow our internal guidance system.

The Invitation of Addiction in Society

Ann Wilson Schaef, author of “When Society Becomes an Addict” says, “Not only does our society invite Addiction, it requires addiction to tolerate the society we have created”. Addiction is how we distract, control and disconnect ourselves from the truth of what we are really thinking, feeling and doing. When we feel powerlessness to stop the addiction, we are tempted to lie about it.

Whether it is an ingestive addiction (drugs, nicotine, alcohol, etc.) or a process addiction (obsessive thinking, worrying, self-generated feelings, money etc.), addiction interferes with our natural life processes. It interferes with our thinking, feeling and internal guidance system that is our natural way of knowing what is good for us.