Women are rising up. The critical point is here. We are joining together at the foot of the volcano and shouting: “Me too!” We are supporting one another, sharing our stories of abuse, mistreatment and invasion around the public campfire. The molten lava is flowing and we are no longer going to be submerged, breathless and speechless, into the abyss. Our voices are being heard – our pain and struggles have a platform to breathe. We are not going to go quietly into a corner any longer. Our fire is spitting out and it cannot be ignored. We no longer need to struggle with this alone.
This is not a man versus woman thing, or an excuse to hate men. There are many decent men with beautiful intentions and hearts to match that want equality and who want the abuse and violation against women to stop. Men that want to use their finely honed and healed masculine protective skills to support women to rise up, encouraging them to break free from the subjugation that has etched our past. We can do it together, all of us. I have never believed feminism means excluding men. I don’t believe any doctrine, movement, philosophy or otherwise whose premise is based on exclusion can ever create lasting change. There are many men raising their awareness to include questions such as:
“How can we help?”
“What can we do better?”
“How can we learn from this?”
Creating a dialogue like this is healing in itself and I am deeply grateful to these men and their inherent sense of responsibility.
Unfortunately there are many men like the disgraced film mogul Harvey Weinstein in our world. And as abhorrent as his behaviours have been for the many women that have been subjected to the invasion of their precious womanhood at his disgusting hands, something beautiful has emerged, something solid and cohesive. The volcano erupted all over our social and emotional structures and we can now begin to build anew. Justice is demanded. Being made accountable for ones actions is compulsory. We will not be immured for a moment longer. A shift is occurring. And whilst there are still many millions of women in the world who are or have been forced to acquiesce much of their freedom and power to a cause, patriarchy or a setting that does not honour or acknowledge them, (and indeed inflicts violence, torture and invasion on them daily), my hope is that with this rising a new morphic field will be created that will gather energy and speed to create in time some support for all these women still on the firing line of the unhealed masculine.
It is so important to voice our stories. Our stories are the energy behind the flame. If we are not allowed to voice our stories then the anger of the subculture implodes in upon us, creating lasting damage. It is equally important not to define oneself as a victim. We are not our stories, yet if we ignore our stories we never really break free from our limitations – they just remain in a private security system that can never breach the walls. A victim is a disempowered state of being. One can still have been victimized yet become powerful and activated. But we can only heal by voicing the unspoken, even if it is just to one person of our choice, or a group of close friends. The pervasive shame that women feel about being violated is so destructive. We blame ourselves, even if not on a conscious level but on subconscious levels it really hits into the decaying pages of our historical library that speak of annihilation and heinous torture and invasion for just being women, for just being the beautifully fecund, wild instinctual creatures that we are. Is it any wonder women feel a sense of guilt as if it might somehow have been their fault because ‘we are too much’? This is a scenario that is commonplace and we have been programmed to believe we have to swallow it and just get on with it.
In certain facets of the world wide spiritual community there is also often a shame attached to voicing one’s stories. Replace that thought with a positive one, so we are told. Goddess forbid we voice anything less than attractive, pretty or fluffy. So many of us who have taken the luxury yacht into the waters of The Law Of Attraction often find out that it doesn’t work or that it is a lackadaisical process that requires much more energy and time than we have available to us.
Why?
Only about 7% of communication is done through actual words, the rest is through body language and other unconscious modes of programming. It is what is held within that is running our lives. Our subconscious mind is a million times more powerful than our conscious mind. 95-99% of our lives are run by our subconscious. That is why I believe affirmations and manifesting techniques can have limited success rates for so many people. Our subconscious beliefs are either working for or against us, our subconscious mind supercedes conscious control. If our subconscious programming is not set to ‘success mode’ then most of what we do will have a limited effect or change in our lives. The subconscious mind is also always on, communicating and creating our lives when we are busy doing something else. I have also found that in my experience those who advocate the ‘only positive thoughts and statements’ school of self-growth are often very stuck in their lives, fundamentally afraid of their own emotions and still thrashing around in endless mud, with the same money, self-worth and creative issues as everyone else. If it works for you then great, I am genuinely happy for you, there are many ways up the mountain and what works for me might not work for you. And I am not advocating we all walk around in endless doom so as ‘to be real’, spouting lack at every corner of our existence.
What I am advocating is that we share our stories and struggles around the metaphorical campfires just as many native tribes would have done. Often when things are voiced then we can go about the business of delving into the energy behind it, of releasing it from a cellular level and a soul level so that we can truly heal. Words alone do not heal. But by exposing our truths we can start the process of putting it to its resting place on a personal level. And even if we do not want to keep talking and sharing our past traumatic experiences, we can stand as a beacon of light and power to enable others to share and create a support system for those still struggling with the damning effects of abuse and violation. We really are all in it together, the quicker we realise this, the more space in our society will be created for structures that enhance us instead of diminish us. I urge you to share your most pertinent wounds and pain and allow others to really see you. It is not a weakness to admit you have suffered or are still suffering. It is a strength to realise that you hold the entire spectrum of experiences in your heart and you choose only what will influence you in the future. Granted, not everyone will want to listen but there are many of us out there who will acknowledge and honour where you have been and remind you of the power available to you to transmute the past and the endless possibilities that the future could hold for you.
The Goddess Pele is both the destroyer and the creator. She is responsible for creating an awakening in us on a personal level and a more global level. Sometimes things have to hit rock bottom for us to change, for us to expand, to stand up and say “Enough!” or to join together and say “Me too!” Honour your Me Too, and always know you are not alone. The Us Too can create lasting change in our feminine landscape. This is how we awaken. We awaken by refusing to stay asleep, we ignite and kindle by refusing to stay silent about discrimination and disproportion of our gender.
There are many amazing, brave, steadfast, intelligent women who have gone before us who have spoken out about injustice and abuse and we can stand on their shoulders and let those learning to speak stand on our shoulders in an unbroken line of sisterhood.
Awaken the courage, strength and truth inside us like the bubbling, core of the volcano. As painful as it is sometimes things need to be destroyed to be created afresh.
Rise Pele Rise!
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