Dirty Talking can deliciously turn intimate moments into sexually charged encounters.  But for the most of us, Dirty Talking is tough especially when we just don’t know how to dirty talk. Dirty talking for the very first time can feel scary but there are so many benefits that you can gain from doing it, it is worth giving it a try.

When do people dirty talk?

Dirty talking builds up the sexual tension between two people before they kiss and play. It can be a big part of the mental seduction which can send people over the edge. If you are struggling to go from one base to another you should definitely consider adding some dirty talk into the mix of things.

Here is a list of the bases that dirty talking can help you move on from:

First base

Kissing in all of its forms. Whether it is a light delicate kiss, open mouth kissing, a longer and more meaningful kiss, French kissing or even a full on make out session. It also includes and types of light touching above the belt.

Second base

Hands playing around below the belt. It includes hand jobs for men and fingering for women.

Third base

Oral play below the belt. It includes giving blow jobs for men and licking out a woman.

Fourth base

Couples sex in all of its glory.

Dirty talking doesn’t just have to be used to go from one base to another. It can also be used during the heat of things. If you are able to stimulate the mind, build perfect fantasies and make your partner dream and imagine all the naughty things that have been said then there is the possibility of them experiencing amazing orgasms that not only feel incredibly intense but could make that level of intensity last even longer.

How to find out if your partner is interested in dirty talking

You can even go to the extent of asking whether your partner is interested in you dirty talking. This can be found out by asking them the question “Would you like me to dirty talk?”. If they say yes, you can then ask “What types of things would you like me to dirty talk about?”. Most people will be open and honest with you as people who are into dirty talking won’t stop you from doing it just how they like it. There are some people who just aren’t into dirty talking and that’s okay.

How to talk dirty

Building the sounds of moans

Dirty talking isn’t just limited to seductive phrases. It is also the sounds you make during sexual encounters. Making soft, gentle and delicate moans when he kisses you just the right way to the louder moans of pleasure that are made after each time he thrusts perfectly into that perfect spot. To begin, edge your mouth closer to his ear and make the quietest of moans that only he could possibly hear. Some moaning sounds may include “mmm, “ohh” and “uhh”. When he moves onto second, third of fourth base work your way up to much louder moans. The sounds that you make encourages and motivates your partner so that he knows and understands that he is pleasuring you just the way you need it. The sounds can lead him to have the courage to try things that he has never done before and even put more power and speed into the encounter.

When talking dirty, take inspiration from what is happening within the moment

The phrase that you say may include the body part that they are using. Complimenting them can earn you big brownie points. Here are some examples,

• First base: “You are really good at doing that with your tongue.”
• Second base: “Your hands feel amazing.”
• Third base: “I love how you taste.”
• Fourth base: “Your body is amazing.”

Ask questions

If you are new to talking dirty you can begin by asking them questions to find out more about what they are into. This in turn, can lead your partner into doing most of the dirty talking. The questions can be whispered, spoken with domination or submission and seductively said to fit into the roleplaying scene that you would like to create. Here are some examples of questions that you can ask your partner:

• “Do you like it when I do that?”
• “How does this feel? Can you describe it for me?”
• “Where do you like being touched?”
• “Where do you like being kissed?”
• “What do you like me doing?”
• “What are you fantasising about?”
• “Do I look sexy to you?”
• “Do you like it when I use this sex toy on you?”

There is an almost unlimited about of questions that you can ask them, you are only limited by your imagination. Listen to what they have said and tell them when you like what they have said or if they are turning you on. If you would like to go a step further, you can try doing something of the things that they have suggested leading you from one sexual experience to another. The great thing about asking questions is that you can also answer them yourself. Your answers will be organic, within the moment and completely natural.