…just give me something I can @#$%ing use.” (my internal dialogue staring at a dozen textbooks in undergrad)

Gavin McInnes gave a great example of a good frameset for humility, speaking of Brooklynites (for whom he has great affection), they say “I’m dumb”‘ in the same sense as “I can’t draw.” They’re not bothered by a reasonable deficiency (who doesn’t have deficiencies?), but they don’t view an excellency as a bad thing either.

Now you have to be the right frame of mind for this. David DeAngelo said it right, that all men who don’t get laid are Angry men. You know what? It’s okay to be angry. I’m angry. I’m angry that my life would have been a whole lot more pleasant if church and school had spent less time entertaining me and more time instructing me. I’m angry that I went years without a woman being aroused by me not because I was especially loathsome, but just because nobody told me anything about how to correct my situation.

Saying “women aren’t attracted to me” is a bit like saying “I can’t draw”.

Look, I know it hurts, it hurt me. You’re going to need some real effort to turn your situation around, and I’m talking gradual progress over time.

But you can make a choice to not be threatened by this. You might feel threatened, but you have a choice in whether or not that feeling determines how you act. Choose as a principle to be as attractive as you can muster. From reading my blog and seeing the content I’ve pointed a lot of you towards, you know what to do. You just need to view it as practicing a virtue.

Virtue doesn’t care how you feel or “think”. You know when you are practicing it or not. Your only goal here is practice the virtue. Power and Comfort. Friendly and Cool.

Bear in mind that some of you are just in a bad situation. I mean, where I’m at now in a suburban area, I don’t meet any attractive suitable women for months at a stretch (by suitable, I mean unmarried and at least self identifying as Christian). I just don’t. Lots of married women, single moms, older divorcees, and lesbians for some reason (no, I don’t mean I assume she’s a lesbian, I mean women who have ” I [heart] eating pussy” background screens, and rainbow triangle pendants). It’s not my like my standards for attractiveness are crazy either, at least not to me. I mean mostly: not fat, feminine form, takes care of herself. In situations like this, if you don’t have a lot of success with the opposite sex, well opportunity can be largely geographical.

Just keep slugging and keep your cool about your defects. If you can’t draw, you can always pick up a book or take a class.