As slightly embarrassing as it is to admit it, I have an obsession with the show Divorce Court. Recently, I saw an episode of the show with a woman, admittedly coming from a broken home, who wanted a divorce because she claimed her Husband (who she admits grew up with healthy and strong family values) was allegedly "too controlling." As my favorite divorce court judge pried to figure out the root of this woman's allegations against her husband, it became apparent that the only thing this husband was guilty of, was trying to fix his wife's problems like he probably promised to do in his vows. This wife was only frustrated by her husbands love for her and his desire to help her because, coming from a broken past, she'd become accustomed to fixing her own problems. Her husband's help literally interrupted her flow of things, which she had grown used to.
This scenario made me think of something: Do you know how many of us think we're ready for the blessings of God but we're not? We can only ask ourselves, how is it this woman wanted an entire divorce just because her husband played the role that a husband is traditionally supposed to play within their marriage? I'm saying this to you because, if we ever take on or keep up the attitude of Mr. or Mrs. Fix It, we can find ourselves operating at this woman's level. We must learn to think and act like we deserve what God WANTS for us instead of being one who grows accustom to seeing their only purpose as being one who accommodates problems. You deserve better than that.
Deeper. If the sound engineer is late and you run to fix it and do his job for him to accommodate his lateness, do you know all that's going to happen? He will eventually feel like it's not that big of a deal for him to be late. If the Music Director doesn't call for rehearsals, so you organize and conduct the rehearsals so there can be order in the music ministry, do you know what will also happen? The music director will realize that he doesn't have to step up to the plate because YOU're going to pick up where he's falling short. Now you're wearing the hat of the butcher, the baker and the candle stick maker, the worship suffers because the one thing that you're actually responsible for is the thing that's being compromised, and by now you're probably also frustrated... while watching everyone around you do the bare minimal while getting the same amount, if not more accreditation and accolades than you're getting (because at this point your worship—your one, true job—is becoming more and more neglected).
So who do you get upset with; the music director, the sound engineer, the people overlooking your overtime efforts, or yourself? I'm going to go right on ahead and say that if you ever catch yourself in a situation like this one, look within yourself. You give dysfunction a booster when you take on tasks that were never a part of your assignment. You might have thought you were just taking initiative but, you do more harm for yourself than good whenever your initiative causes you to sacrifice and compromise the responsibility God really assigned to you. Your assignment in God is to be a Worship Leader. The Bible says to us that OBEDIENCE is better than SACRIFICES. Don't wonder why God is not rewarding you for your sacrifice when your sacrifice is causing you to disobey Him. The same God who called you to be a worship leader can also correct, direct, and fix the voids that are related to your assignment. Your only job is to fulfill YOUR assignment to the best of your ability with joy and a grateful heart. Remember this (please): Obedience is Better Than Sacrifice! Trusting God is sometimes actually more challenging than being Mr./Mrs. Fix It but in the long run, it will almost most certainly be worth it.
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