When it comes to dating, believe me, I’ve been there and done it! And I can truly attest that the Emotional quotient that defines the success of a person not only in life but in love as well. I have a man who was once a heavy load to carry. He complained about little things and all the little spots all errors and all. I’m so exhausted to be with him. Then there is a guy who is so amazing, his optimism is so contagious, it feels good to be with him he is wonderful! It’s so amazing to be with him having been together for years. We as psychologists agree that IQ contributes only twenty percent to a person’s success. A pertussis eighty percent comes from the emotional quotient or Emotional Intelligence. It’s just sensible to say that if you want to know if he is good for you, so please take the time to find his emotional quotient. To note his emotional intelligence look out for the following:
The depth of self-consciousness: It’s his ability to recognize a feeling as it occurs. One way to tell if the man has a potential level of emotional intelligence is through his decision-making style. Will he take his intuition into consideration? Another way to tell is to ask him of his strengths and weaknesses, is he aware of these things? Note also how he communicates his feelings for you; if he cannot explain or is often confused about his feeling, then he just might not be the man.
Mood management: Our mood in its highs and lows adds spice to our lives. The key is to have a good balance between good mood and bad mood. When we are overwhelmed by our emotions, it’s just better to have little control over it. Though this is not an easy thing to do. But people who rank high in their emotional intelligence has control on how long this feeling will last. The study indicates that anger seems to be the most difficult to handle. It’s no doubt that the experience of being cut off by another car while driving can be annoying. In such a situation, our reflective thought would be. That idiot! I’ll show him! The more you keep that thought in your mind, the more your anger is aggravated .Ventilation systems are a good way to solve this problem, but experts say is the worst strategy ever. The experts gave a tip on how to improve your emotional intelligence, and that is reframing or changing the way you interpret the situation. See the situation in a more positive perspective. In application, when someone cuts you off on the road while driving, say to yourself! Perhaps he has an emergency
A positive motivation: It’s his enthusiasm, his eagerness and confidence. These factors contribute greatly to the success and happiness in your relationship. You can observe this through, how he handles failure; does he take it too personally? Is he a goal getter? People, who have a passing score on emotional intelligence, never blame others or themselves for their mistake. This gives them optimism and motivation to continue.
Self-regulation. It’s the ability of your man to think before acting. Impulse control is the ability to delay desire to serve purpose. Whether your man has this capability can save you a lot of problems and issues, cheating problems to be precise.
Social skills. It’s the ability to be sensitive to the feelings of others. The management of the relationship, while building networks. This is very easy to decipher from your man. Is he good with people? Is he okay with your friends? Is he a man of many friends? Does he have a good relationship in the Office?