Alright, so I think the second half of the title gives some good advice....just because you're lonely does not mean you should sleep around any where. Let's be honest, if you've had sex you know how good it is. And it seems that when sex presents itself, we loose self control- but we're going to save this issue for another time :)

Right now I want to talk about that feeling I'm having while it seems that all my friends are getting married.....you know the one. The "why am I the only single person/should I be getting married?" question. It only takes a little while before I realize how crazy I am. Growing up, I thought no one got married until their 30's. I thought everyone lived like they did on "Friends" and bought into the "it will happen when it happens." I was never the little girl that planned her wedding to every detail. And here I am a very early 20-something and I'm freaking out because I'm ready to tie my life down? No Thank You!

When we're kids we are forever dealing with cliques. Preps, Jocks, Goths, and whatever else we came up with. Do cliques disappear now that we're out of high school? NO! But the titles change to things like SINGLES, DATING, MARRIED COUPLES. Every church has a singles group and a married group. Every time you join a church, some divine couple gets engaged and it's all anyone can talk about. It's enough to turn me into cat lady at an early age. But this has to stop, because that's not how it is at all.

Perhaps I'm destined to be a nun, but I'm thinking I'm not. Here's what I think, as a renewed Christian, I did all the wrong things growing up. Sleeping around, giving myself away to be validated by the high school m.v.p. were included. But here's the thing about girls and small towns. We remember EVERY DETAIL- and every place we hooked up. And coming home and driving by all these places filled with memories is not exactly how I envisioned a summer vacation at my parents' house..... So small towns are not the place to mess around. Get some confidence in you. Make a list of the good things about you. We're so convinced it's a bad thing to think about all your good qualities. I'm not asking you to become self-centered, I'm asking that you just look at yourself and realize how amazing you are. Now if you're thinking that I can't possibly be addressing you because there's nothing good about you...get over that.

It's true what they say, you can't love somebody until you love yourself. This is going to be a journey, and the first step is making your list. Here's my list and maybe it'll inspire all of you out there:

1. I have great intuition.
2. I can make people laugh.
3. I think I'm pretty.
4. I have great eyes and cute smile.
5. I'm gifted with kids and teaching.
6. I will do great things in my life time.