Wow its been quite a few weeks. Are you wondering where I went? Not dating, not interested- well always interested. But I have had weeks full of a new school year, catching up with friends and moving!
I want to talk about grudges, retaliating, bottling things up and the like. We all do it, we all have someone that makes us aggravated. And I know every situation is unique and you don't get it unless you're involved, and BLAH BLAH BLAH......here's what we can agree on, that final point when you erupt like Mount Vesuvius is never your proudest moment.
How do we avoid said eruption? Do something for you. I'll give you an example, which I'm thinking is pretty relative:
My friend, we're gonna call her Chandy, started liking a new guy. And the short version is that she did some pretty uncool things that effected me as a result of just crushing on a guy. Did I stop talking to her? Yea, I gave myself a couple days breathing room. I dont want a confrontation if it doesn't have to happen. So I dealt with my feelings of bitterness, found my compassion and didn't worry about trashing her name in front of everyone. It also helped that I met a couple new guys that were friends of a friend. Without knowing it, and with just being themselves, they lifted me out of that bitterness straight away. New friends aren't meant to replace the old ones, but a change in scenery might be just what you need. After hanging out with them, I was fine. Perfectly happy :)
Now should Chandy keep it up, I'll address it. But at least these initial ugly feelings are gone and I'm not so worked up.
A lot of times I have to remind myself of some things: I know I'm a FIRECRACKER. Stubborn and crazy. But I am also a strong southern woman raised by an amazing family that had many phenomenal God- fearing women. So as much as I want to blow up or talk trash, I know 2 things, MY MOMMA TAUGHT ME BETTER THAN THAT and I have an image as a Christian, God-fearing woman myself that I am responsible for.
Here's something else my momma taught me, ugly feelings make you ugly. If you've got your heart all twisted up in bitterness and grudges your face is gonna reflect it. I know its hard to always be happy for friends when things aren't going our way. Remember when I said you absolutely can't love someone until you love yourself? Its the same principle here. YOU CANNOT BE HAPPY FOR A FRIEND AND THEIR SITUATION UNLESS YOU ARE FULLY CONTENT WITH WHAT YOU HAVE. Its true. It sucks to be reminded of it sometimes, but thats the way life goes :)
So, class, what have we learned? Just be happy, in anything and everything. Don't let ugly feelings make you ugly. Don't bottle it up or trash talk your friends, or even people you don't know. Why? CAUSE MY MOMMA TAUGHT ME BETTER THAN THAT!
Valentine
I want to talk about grudges, retaliating, bottling things up and the like. We all do it, we all have someone that makes us aggravated. And I know every situation is unique and you don't get it unless you're involved, and BLAH BLAH BLAH......here's what we can agree on, that final point when you erupt like Mount Vesuvius is never your proudest moment.
How do we avoid said eruption? Do something for you. I'll give you an example, which I'm thinking is pretty relative:
My friend, we're gonna call her Chandy, started liking a new guy. And the short version is that she did some pretty uncool things that effected me as a result of just crushing on a guy. Did I stop talking to her? Yea, I gave myself a couple days breathing room. I dont want a confrontation if it doesn't have to happen. So I dealt with my feelings of bitterness, found my compassion and didn't worry about trashing her name in front of everyone. It also helped that I met a couple new guys that were friends of a friend. Without knowing it, and with just being themselves, they lifted me out of that bitterness straight away. New friends aren't meant to replace the old ones, but a change in scenery might be just what you need. After hanging out with them, I was fine. Perfectly happy :)
Now should Chandy keep it up, I'll address it. But at least these initial ugly feelings are gone and I'm not so worked up.
A lot of times I have to remind myself of some things: I know I'm a FIRECRACKER. Stubborn and crazy. But I am also a strong southern woman raised by an amazing family that had many phenomenal God- fearing women. So as much as I want to blow up or talk trash, I know 2 things, MY MOMMA TAUGHT ME BETTER THAN THAT and I have an image as a Christian, God-fearing woman myself that I am responsible for.
Here's something else my momma taught me, ugly feelings make you ugly. If you've got your heart all twisted up in bitterness and grudges your face is gonna reflect it. I know its hard to always be happy for friends when things aren't going our way. Remember when I said you absolutely can't love someone until you love yourself? Its the same principle here. YOU CANNOT BE HAPPY FOR A FRIEND AND THEIR SITUATION UNLESS YOU ARE FULLY CONTENT WITH WHAT YOU HAVE. Its true. It sucks to be reminded of it sometimes, but thats the way life goes :)
So, class, what have we learned? Just be happy, in anything and everything. Don't let ugly feelings make you ugly. Don't bottle it up or trash talk your friends, or even people you don't know. Why? CAUSE MY MOMMA TAUGHT ME BETTER THAN THAT!
Valentine
