Ask women what is it about Man that makes them attractive to women?

One attribute most women will answer is being NON PRETENTIOUS or putting no effort to make himself look good to her.

And in my personal view it is the top most attribute a Man can have.

Hidden Agenda is another thing most women can smell while interacting with a man. Which is another turn off for most human being.

So what is the root of both being PRETENTIOUS and having a HIDDEN AGENDA?

It is Our Ego.

Ego is an self image in itself created during our upbringing. It is condition by cultures, beliefs and experiences.

But with time we as people and mostly in a Man case it becomes our identity. Even though this identity is transient in nature we believe to be a permanent sense of self.

Ego survives on approval mainly.

And this craving for approval forces ego to get what it wants (which ego has projected to have it necessarily for its survival)

The underlying subtext of Ego is living under fear of not being approved CONSISTENTLY.

This fear leads to a thought that You as a person is not good enough.

And this thought leads us to put ourselves in better light at the cost of pretending to be some one else or trying to impress the opposite gender.

We men become PRETENTIOUS in the process of attempting to impress the woman.

The thought of you are not good enough also create a habit of having Hidden Agenda.

Ego always want something from someone or some situation. It is perpetually unsatisfied.

At any cost it desire to have ITS WANTS fulfilled.

Ego is fearful of not getting what it wants and hence it plays the game with a hidden agenda.

For example a man compliments a woman to get something in return maybe a smile or conversation.

Hidden Agenda is never healthy for both men and women alike.

So how can Man make its Ego ally in Seduction?

By gaining perspectives on how seduction works and secondly by being aware of the voice in your head which is the Ego.

As I explained above being PRETENTIOUS and having a HIDDEN AGENDA are killers of seduction and your ego has a role to play in it.

Start by bringing awareness to it.

Whenever you are interacting with a woman ask yourself Are you trying to impress her and Do you have a Hidden AGENDA?

If the answer is yes then focus the conversation on her.

Just by being AWARE slowly you will able to make your ego an ally of yours.