Old Women are great, they always unknowingly teach men something about dating and relationships.

I was standing in the aisle of a bookstore, chatting with two random women I just met. All three of us were unknown to each other. Initially I was chatting with the older one only (not that old actually, but in the current context I will refer to this way) about this book name ‘Secret’. As we were talking, the younger one camp on our conversation and joined in. She started sharing her tidbits and her take on things. To my surprised she was just 18 and highly articulate. I was enjoying her presence. I also started bantering with her. She was my type, I knew it. Just out of no where I said ” I like you, I want to take you on a date today”. Silence. Older women for few seconds look down to her book and younger one retorted back ” I am too young to go out on date with you”. I didn’t say anything. But for few seconds the younger stood there as if she is waiting for something to happen. Then she left biding us goodbye. The older one stood up looked into my eyes and said “Why did you do that? Why did you asked her on a date when you didn’t mean it? If you meant it, you would have justified it when she said I am too young to go out on date with you.” And she also left. 

I kept wondering what the Older woman told me for two days. I said to myself that I meant it to ask her on a date. And I went back in my life to see any pattern of that kind.

And yes there were few, where women hinted to me that I was not serious about dating. In fact one incident I recalled when I told this lovely married woman that I would love to kiss her and next day I did not attempt anything of that kind and as days went by I could sense her lack of curiosity about me. That Older Woman made me realize that if I really wanted to kiss her, I should have justified it by attempting.

Women want men to succeed at seduction. But for men to succeed, they need to have the fire of follow up and strong expression, other wise women will doubt your intentions and not play her role in seduction.

When a man expresses his desires it should always be in the realms of “Offcourse” rather than “Maybe”, other wise a woman’s inner girl won’t rise up for the man.

Women need to feel conviction in men.

How does men imbibe in them the conviction?

By living a life they expect to live and not what others expect of them.

Why it is like that? I Don’t know.

All I know it is the  way of women.