Part 1 - Indentured Care
For a little while now, I have had the honor to work with students who have made the personal choice to pursue individual development through the use of a tutor – specifically, a writing tutor. Tutoring is an unexpected chapter in my life that was made possible by faculty who had confidence in me. This confidence is defined by their entrusting to me the individual development of their students. The students reveal some personal part of themselves each time we meet. Together, these are the threads that weave the fabric of trust.
Trust is the foundation of individual development. In this post, I write to the unexpected gift of trust that is multi faceted and exchanged through shared experiences.
Lifetime Experience
I am beyond the half-century mark of my lifetime, where my own experiences have developed a sense of standing in me – I know those things I know. Still, I have learned new things about myself through my experiences with students who are at the quarter century mark in their lifetime. These experiences which inform my learning are the unexpected gifts of working one-on-one.
Gifts
To get to trust, an individual must allow themselves to be open, vulnerable. Vulnerability is less given, rather, vulnerability is a state of grace, unconsciously revealed in a moment of focus and connection. Vulnerability is an attribute of trust. Let’s start with the definitions of the words trust and vulnerable.
trust (trŭst) n. 1. Firm reliance on the integrity, ability, or character of a person or thing. 2. Custody; care. 3. Something committed into the care of another; charge [From Middle English truste, perhaps from Old Norse traust, confidence] (American Heritage Dictionary, 4th ed. p.1851).
vulnerable (vul’nәr-ә-bәl) adj. 1a. Susceptible to physical or emotional injury. [From the Latin, vulnerãre, to wound] (American Heritage Dictionary, 4th ed. p.1931).
The definitions seem simple, uncomplicated, and easy to understand; and maybe as an intellectual exercise, they are just that: simple. However, to be open to the experience of trust requires being vulnerable – made apparent by consciously putting in plain view (revealing) those personal rails that knowingly need improvement.
How the tutor treads on those tracks is at the heart of the relationship – the bridge walked together over time. In this relationship, the tutor is indentured to hold the development and care of the student above the tutor’s self. This concept is the foundation of developing trust by honoring the vulnerability of the student. Over time, this experience will reveal unexpected gifts.
Do you have an unexpected gift received through indentured tutoring?
For a little while now, I have had the honor to work with students who have made the personal choice to pursue individual development through the use of a tutor – specifically, a writing tutor. Tutoring is an unexpected chapter in my life that was made possible by faculty who had confidence in me. This confidence is defined by their entrusting to me the individual development of their students. The students reveal some personal part of themselves each time we meet. Together, these are the threads that weave the fabric of trust.
Trust is the foundation of individual development. In this post, I write to the unexpected gift of trust that is multi faceted and exchanged through shared experiences.
Lifetime Experience
I am beyond the half-century mark of my lifetime, where my own experiences have developed a sense of standing in me – I know those things I know. Still, I have learned new things about myself through my experiences with students who are at the quarter century mark in their lifetime. These experiences which inform my learning are the unexpected gifts of working one-on-one.
Gifts
To get to trust, an individual must allow themselves to be open, vulnerable. Vulnerability is less given, rather, vulnerability is a state of grace, unconsciously revealed in a moment of focus and connection. Vulnerability is an attribute of trust. Let’s start with the definitions of the words trust and vulnerable.
trust (trŭst) n. 1. Firm reliance on the integrity, ability, or character of a person or thing. 2. Custody; care. 3. Something committed into the care of another; charge [From Middle English truste, perhaps from Old Norse traust, confidence] (American Heritage Dictionary, 4th ed. p.1851).
vulnerable (vul’nәr-ә-bәl) adj. 1a. Susceptible to physical or emotional injury. [From the Latin, vulnerãre, to wound] (American Heritage Dictionary, 4th ed. p.1931).
The definitions seem simple, uncomplicated, and easy to understand; and maybe as an intellectual exercise, they are just that: simple. However, to be open to the experience of trust requires being vulnerable – made apparent by consciously putting in plain view (revealing) those personal rails that knowingly need improvement.
How the tutor treads on those tracks is at the heart of the relationship – the bridge walked together over time. In this relationship, the tutor is indentured to hold the development and care of the student above the tutor’s self. This concept is the foundation of developing trust by honoring the vulnerability of the student. Over time, this experience will reveal unexpected gifts.
Do you have an unexpected gift received through indentured tutoring?
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