Keeping score. I believe that a majority of us has a tendency to hold on to things we should have let go of. Over the years, that fear of being judged, that we might be seen as less than we are without the opportunity to speak for ourselves makes us hang on to Hurt, pain and let downs. All this gets indelibly embedded in our memory and somewhere, deep within us, it lurks. I know I hold some of these fears. When I discussed these with my Mom, she lovingly advised me to let it all go. Sometimes, in the heat of the moment, I would feel like getting even—and she would ask, “Isn’t the pain of holding all this hurt painful enough?”. Of course, I never did follow up on getting even—that’s just not me.  But I have realized, on more than one occasion, that I could have avoided the pain of hanging on to the hurt by simply walking away from it rather than overthinking it and feeling miserable. We only learn through experience that when something has passed, it is over and done with. How can we live in the present moment and get the most out […]

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