It’s been quite awhile since I have written anything. Half of this is because university life is so stressful and the other half is because I swear I havent had anything to write about. I figure now, with everything going on in life for many people around me it may be an ideal time for me to write about the art of letting go.

Letting go of thing’s is not an easy task let me tell you… Whether it be a family member, a spouse, a friend, a hobby etc. Letting go is always something that is difficult so, because I like to help people out,  I’m gonna let you in on a few key thing’s I’ve learned when it comes to letting stuff go.

1. My biggest internalized catch phrase is ‘let go and let god’. This reminds me to wash my hands of any situation that is causing me stress, sadness, hurt, or anxiety and let god take over. He is here to be the shoulder you lean on when you can’t support yourself. He is there at all times and he offers the comfort and peace from within that no one else can.
2. If it isn’t going to bother you in 10 years stop worrying. No seriously. It may feel like the absolute end of the freakin world right now, it may feel like the walls are closing in around you, or like your heart is being physically ripped out of your chest, or maybe you’ve become so numb because you cant even fathom the situation. I get it. But if in 10 years you think about the situation and it dosn’t bring you the same kind of pain you’re feeling right now it’s time to take a step back and begin to heal.
3. No matter how empty or hurt you feel you can never and i mean never go back to what broke you in the first place. Even if it was the same thing that shaped you. You will only walk away broken once again but this time the pieces will be too shattered for you to reconstruct quickly.  And lastly:
4. Let them go. Yes I know that person feels like home, they also feel like comfort, like safety net, like the safe option. Somtimes you find yourself in a situation that you may want to leave but you feel so unsure. And you may feel unsure for many reasons. It seems like a very unethical decsion to make because when you have someone in your life who brings you peace and security why would you want to let it go? Lemme tell you ladies and gent’s if the only reason you are with somone is because they are your safe bet you gotta let them gooooo. For both you and them. You will find yourself so much happier when you are introduced to a new person who doesn’t become the home or security blanket you are looking for but instead finds uncharterd land with you and helps you to build a home. One together. Half of you and half of them. And the other person, the person who felt like home, like security blanket, well they will meet someone too. Someone who wants to create a home from scratch instead of building ontop of the wreckage of an old house. And they deserve this. Let them have this.

At this time I dont really have much else to say so I’ll end off this blog post with an excerpt from a poem of mine called

An Open Letter To My Feelings

You made home out of a vacant space left by a past wandrer and I got too comfortable in between the sheets that were never mine to begin with

Forgetting you could simply take it away at your leisure

And of course this is what you did

But I should not be so naive as I am no longer a kid  

Yet these are the thorns on the beautiful roses we picked

I guess if I had watched it grow and never touched it I would never have been pricked.