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This will be a long read. But it will make you think.

Tough decisions are what life is made up of. What you chose to do at that instant, shapes what becomes of you and what lays down the road.

They say, crossroads are where pacts are made, be it the crossroads deal to sell one’s soul or two close friends bidding each other adieu, for they wont be seeing each other for a long time, vowing to meet at some place some years down the road.

Every decision we make changes the course of our lives. The most important decisions in life are never easy. I’m here to try and break down the thought process that goes into making such decisions.

People usually make such life-altering decisions after some pretty noteworthy incidents. Now I say noteworthy instead of spectacular or incredible because such moments may not always be all sweet spice and everything nice.

Uprooting one’s entire life and moving on to something else, something new takes guts, takes immense courage. Yes, I know that both of those words mean the same thing, but that’s how invaluable it is. The most important thing everyone does is weigh the pros and cons. There might be many more cons than pros, the impact of each item on that list matters the most. If that drastic decision is going to change your life for the better, then do it. If that decision will make the pain even just a little bit bearable, do it.

Let’s take a look at some examples so that you can better understand what all one might feel/think whilst making this decision:

• A person getting out of a toxic relationship.
• A human starting a new career path after spending multiple years doing something he thought he loved, and maybe he did love it, but it wasn’t the ONE, work-wise.

A person in situation 1, has spent most of his/her recent years in a toxic relationship which has affected his/her academics, personality, confidence and leading to a emotional vulnerability.
Making the decision to stop chasing after the person who judging by the past will hurt you again in the future seems like an impossible one, and the cons might overtake the pros in numbers, but there will be one point that will outweigh everything else.
People in such situations might draw on someone else’s support and opinion/advice. This process is very much similar to giving up an addiction. There will be times where you’ll feel like the pain of withdrawal is much more than the pain of the toxins. And this is the moment where you need someone to make you feel better, make you believe~again~, that you made the right choice and restore the faith.
Note: This is a true story, and I can vouch for that person that making the decision to cut out the toxic elements in his/her life has immeasurably improved the quality of life and increased his/her confidence.

PS: If you’re reading this, I thought other people might benefit from your story and inspire them or giving them the support they didn’t know they needed. If I could help you, then this might help them as well.

Moving on to situation number 2. Dealing with careers has many more dimensions that getting out of a relationship. Everything that you will do, will affect everyone around you. If you’re married and have little Human and non-human hatchlings, then your choice to quit and move on to another job affects all of them directly.
If you’re not married and are still finding your groove, it will affect your confidence the most. It will also raise societal opinions and rest assured there will be some negative comments as well.
You can write off these negative remarks as coming from people who hate your guts and who didn’t have the balls to take a similar decision you did when they had the chance. As far as the so-called modern era humans go, i.e the “NEXTGEN” human offsprings of the 21st century, a majority of them seek social validation for their actions. This is usually accompanied by excessive social media posts. Coming back, such social validations are nothing but anchors weighing you down, making the decision-making process harder than it already is. Seeking social validation is a type of fear, also known as “log kya kahenge”  as it is said in Hindi. This directly translates into what might others think.

The funny thing about these people is that most of them won’t be affected by the choice you make, at least not directly. At the moment that action might not make sense to them, and everyone is entitled to their opinion, which results in a chaotic environment of unwanted comments.

They say “If you have a job doing what you love, and you’ll never have to work a single day in your life.” This is true, but the thing is, priorities might change. One might be interested in something else since childhood and had buried it down because of some personal/financial/parental/societal reasons and taken up more socially accepted fields. These buried feelings might surface later on in your life and at that time it might be too late or it might seem too late. If you’re really passionate about it, you should try and go for it. In cases where its too much of a risk to quit something you’re doing and are good at, you can go for a trial run of your passion. If it works, you can go all in. There’s no reason why a part-time can’t blossom into a full-time deal. The internet is full of things you can use to dry run your passion. If you’re passionate about food, you can try for small orders. If you’re passionate about psychology, you can start by taking interest in other peoples lives, offering your input if and when needed.

Decision making is one of the most stressful things humans do. And the decisions that might make or break a deal are often the simplest yet the hardest. There’s a difference between something being simple and something being easy. I’ll let you figure that one out if needed drop a comment below and I’ll explain it the best I can.

As I’ve said before, don’t be afraid of what others might think, do what’s best for you. If you don’t respect yourself no amount of social validation will work for you.

For me, the only way to respect yourself is to do the right thing, no matter how hard it is or how wrong it might seem at the time.

First they’ll ignore you, then they’ll laugh at you, then they’ll fight you, then you will win.

A post about the same topic will be posted on my friends’ blog. Be sure to check it out. I’ve prepared you guys for the leap of faith that you’ve made the right call. Leap is a sensitive and dreaded thing, and to help you, we’ve got something. You can read it at: RunningOnTheCarousel

Ps: it’s not yet uploaded, I’ll edit the link to direct you to the post when the post is published.