By,
Shubham Srivastava.
Since the very first time, probably when the humanity would have taken place on this planet and we started to evolve, not only biologically but consciously too. There has been lot of changes since then and one thing that gets changed too often with time is our ideology about everything; but one thing among the few things which remained same throughout the time is Love. A lot has been said and written about love. Especially definitions like love is blind, love is sacred, love is eternal and many blah blah things. I am not going to give it a new definition because neither i want to define it nor can i. The one thing in which i want to get into is benefits and repercussions of love.
An aphorism which has been quite popular among generations is when someone says "he/she has fallen in love". We fall in love when puberty hits us and hormonal changes take place or we fall in love when someone abruptly comes in our life and makes it feel like our life is much more than what we could have ever imagined by ourselves. We have never used this saying "fallen in love" with our parents, siblings, nation or our home because this love is inevitable. Be it benefit or repercussion; you have to deal with them because these are the things/persons who have served you when you were a helpless kid and could do nothing on your own. Therefore getting hurt from them is still okay. It is okay; not because you owe them but because of the fact that they don't deserve your rage and hatred.
Now let's get back to that aphorism. A quote says that falling is not bad because it makes you strong. Another quote says that if you fall "n" times then you will rise "n+1" times. Precisely the more you fall the more you become stronger. Then why does falling in love make us vulnerable instead of making us strong? Is this even love which is making you vulnerable? Whenever we fall in love with someone, their happiness becomes our utmost priority and our happiness starts to vanish by time. Leave our parents, siblings or friends; we even fight with 'our instinct and our conscience' for them which never lie, which only want our well being. In the process of making someone else's life a paradise, we certainly don't realize that we have already made our life a hell. The day when we fall in love is the same day when we start to feel that "This Love'' has more repercussions that benefits. Let's get little deeper. In more than half of the cases when a person falls in love, he\she is not loved back at all and the pain of not getting loved back is inexplicable. The agony and restlessness one gets can only be felt by oneself. If one is loved back but not with the same intensity what he/she is putting in then it also feels the same like why me every time? There is an another case where one has fallen in love and he/she is being loved back with same or even more intensity then there starts your vulnerability and your insecurity for that person. Though one feels on top of the world, though one trusts his/her partner unprecedentedly but these vulnerabilities and insecurities steal some of his/her happiness and try to make it a horrible experience. one feels like what if i am being cheated or what if i lose that person? These questions make him/her an extra protective person and the same love which is making him/her feel alive and joyful starts to be burdensome in some ways.
Love has been a cakewalk for no one yet last but not the least, there is a love in this same world where one feels joyous, full of life, full of strength, where every single second feels like happier than ever. Where there is no trust issue, where there is no place for insecurity and vulnerability. Where there is no fear of get cheated and where there one's life doesn't get messier in making his/her partner's life amicable. If all these things happen then only it can be said that,
" A PERSON HAS RISEN IN LOVE ".
I know that it seems utopian but it must have happened to many people. The more you will know about your inner self and as "Sadhguru" says - the nature of your existence, the sooner you will start to rise in love and it is nothing like you will face no repercussions at all but i want to say that those repercussions will also seem fruitful. I am constantly working on my inner self and trying to know the nature of my existence. If i could know a very little of it then it would be great, so should you. To know the nature of your existence is literally too tough but knowing your inner self is not that tough. So start doing something which can take you closer to yourself then rising in love will not seem insurmountable but it will become an automatic and unanimous choice by your heart, mind and your prudence.
