wow, its been a long time since I've written, probably months. Sorry for all those who clicked on this link or found this site and were like wtf?! this is never updated. I'm gonna attempt to say some of the most truthful thoughts I've ever had concerning men, women, and relationships. I hope to get some feedback on this one- it might get a little grimy.
First, I've always wondered about the Female self image(self respect). It seems to be like a wisp of smoke for most women to attain and keep, one moment its there and the next its not. This theory becomes an almost blatant fact when any man (or woman for that matter) with any ability of perception observes your behavior. For example, (and this is usually with someone you have some level of trust in) in the constant assessment and reassessment of your body ie. do these jeans make my love handles stick out? do I look fat in this shirt? do these jeans make my ass look to fat? too small? what about my breasts? does this bra accentuate my cleavage correctly? do I look slutty, or sexy? and on and on and on. The amount of data you females take of yourselves could rival that of the Central Intelligence Agency. For most men, regardless of what they say, as long as you do your best to be hygenic and most importantly confident, many, many guys will find you extremely attractive. And I know you guys know that, because most girls who may even be aesthetically pleasing has a "chubby"/"fat"/not so attractive friend who always seems to have men or women(based on preference) constantly attracted to them or hitting on them. I know on some level you females think to yourselves, "I'm more attractive, smarter, better dresser, funnier, etc, than she is" and you wonder whats her secret. I'll tell you, from a guys perspective to any females who might wonder and to any guys who never analyzed this.
The secret really is confidence. Obviously, besides those girls that have a "reputation" that precedes them (most guys follow a path of least resistance, at least in a bar/party setting), the biggest factor is confidence, and not taking yourself so seriously. I don't mean to be an asshole here, but honestly, you girls of average looks or around decent attractiveness, get off your high horse, for real. Look, we know you're not that attractive, and if you are, its still a huge turnoff to act snobby, or as if you know the whole world should recognize your beauty. Please. Thats probably the biggest reaason why you guys get burned. The nice guys, average guys, and guys who would make your dreams come true, emotionally, sexually, mentally, maybe even financially, get burned time and time again by you guys, because they're not pretty boys, or because they don't treat you like shit. I mean lets face it, most guys don't really have a clue what you girls need, or even how to get the proverbial foot in the door, but to be honest a lot of them shouldn't have to have "game" or feel like they should. They should be given a chance based on their merit, and personality. At least, for those girls who complain that they can't find a good boyfriend. You females who are just lookin for no strings atttached or just one night of fun, continue as you please, but all others (and there are a lot of you) need to pay attention. If you've ever seen the truth disguised as a romantic comedy "Hitch" then you know whats up. Truly nice individuals never have a chance to impress you because you females are so competitive and image concious that a particular guy won't be cute enough, hot enough, or live up to your unreal expectations of what you can attain physically, to your friends, family, etc. you reject them off the back. Now, that part is not all women's fault, some of it is the guy's but that will probably have to be discussed in a part 2.
My other issue that I must discuss, and it may not be entirely your fault, is the fact that most females seem to always have to do things the indirect route. That bothers me to end when I observe. For example, at a party the other night, I was talking to a female, not really trying to make a move or anything, just discussion, and I leave and notice another guy talking to her trying to do his best to ascertain her interest. To me, it looks like he's doing a good job of it although I saw a slight hesitation from the female. He leaves and gestures, to her, for her to follow, she responds in some weird different way. I say to her go to him he's askin for you, and her response is I don't care, I'm not trying to be with him, and 10 mins later they leave together. Wtf is that shit? or perhaps the whole playing games issue of I'm interested in him until he's interested in me and then I'm not interested anymore, or not being clear if you actually like a guy, and want him to do things with you. You know before you blow up on a guy for not respecting your feelings, or understanding you, stop and ask yourself, "have I told him in direct terms what I feel and what I expect?" "did he respond clearly about what it is he wants", and did I recognize and accept it" "am I overreacting" because I believe probably 90 percent of the time 1 of those 3 things you haven't done. Damn, I'm running out of gas. I'm trying to get it all out before I crash.
Look, nobody is at fault 100 percent of the time, but ladies, stop, remember, and accept, guys are extremely simple. More simple than you think. If he likes you, he'll show it, and if you don't know ask, cause he will tell you, and if he plays games and you don't like it stop wasting your time and move on. He's not worth it to begin with, if you have a decent self image, are confident, and not so bitchy you will have plenty of suiters, trust me. And if you find that guy and you want to keep him around its real simple. Spontaneous bouts of sexual expression and affection(random head, sex, even molestation), cooking for him (no matter how much you might suck), good head (I can't stress that enough), and not bitching/nagging at him so much about how his gift may have disappointed you, or that he didn't remember your 6 month anniversary, and trust me he will stay and be very happy to do so.
Damn, I probably left out a bunch of stuff, but thats ok. I've said enough for now. Anyone who finds this interesting or truthful come back in a little while and I'll explain what guys need to do and what's expected of them. Any comments or responses regarding this nonsensical garbage would be appreciated. Also, sorry for any typo's or grammatcial errors. I don't give a fuck. Peace.
First, I've always wondered about the Female self image(self respect). It seems to be like a wisp of smoke for most women to attain and keep, one moment its there and the next its not. This theory becomes an almost blatant fact when any man (or woman for that matter) with any ability of perception observes your behavior. For example, (and this is usually with someone you have some level of trust in) in the constant assessment and reassessment of your body ie. do these jeans make my love handles stick out? do I look fat in this shirt? do these jeans make my ass look to fat? too small? what about my breasts? does this bra accentuate my cleavage correctly? do I look slutty, or sexy? and on and on and on. The amount of data you females take of yourselves could rival that of the Central Intelligence Agency. For most men, regardless of what they say, as long as you do your best to be hygenic and most importantly confident, many, many guys will find you extremely attractive. And I know you guys know that, because most girls who may even be aesthetically pleasing has a "chubby"/"fat"/not so attractive friend who always seems to have men or women(based on preference) constantly attracted to them or hitting on them. I know on some level you females think to yourselves, "I'm more attractive, smarter, better dresser, funnier, etc, than she is" and you wonder whats her secret. I'll tell you, from a guys perspective to any females who might wonder and to any guys who never analyzed this.
The secret really is confidence. Obviously, besides those girls that have a "reputation" that precedes them (most guys follow a path of least resistance, at least in a bar/party setting), the biggest factor is confidence, and not taking yourself so seriously. I don't mean to be an asshole here, but honestly, you girls of average looks or around decent attractiveness, get off your high horse, for real. Look, we know you're not that attractive, and if you are, its still a huge turnoff to act snobby, or as if you know the whole world should recognize your beauty. Please. Thats probably the biggest reaason why you guys get burned. The nice guys, average guys, and guys who would make your dreams come true, emotionally, sexually, mentally, maybe even financially, get burned time and time again by you guys, because they're not pretty boys, or because they don't treat you like shit. I mean lets face it, most guys don't really have a clue what you girls need, or even how to get the proverbial foot in the door, but to be honest a lot of them shouldn't have to have "game" or feel like they should. They should be given a chance based on their merit, and personality. At least, for those girls who complain that they can't find a good boyfriend. You females who are just lookin for no strings atttached or just one night of fun, continue as you please, but all others (and there are a lot of you) need to pay attention. If you've ever seen the truth disguised as a romantic comedy "Hitch" then you know whats up. Truly nice individuals never have a chance to impress you because you females are so competitive and image concious that a particular guy won't be cute enough, hot enough, or live up to your unreal expectations of what you can attain physically, to your friends, family, etc. you reject them off the back. Now, that part is not all women's fault, some of it is the guy's but that will probably have to be discussed in a part 2.
My other issue that I must discuss, and it may not be entirely your fault, is the fact that most females seem to always have to do things the indirect route. That bothers me to end when I observe. For example, at a party the other night, I was talking to a female, not really trying to make a move or anything, just discussion, and I leave and notice another guy talking to her trying to do his best to ascertain her interest. To me, it looks like he's doing a good job of it although I saw a slight hesitation from the female. He leaves and gestures, to her, for her to follow, she responds in some weird different way. I say to her go to him he's askin for you, and her response is I don't care, I'm not trying to be with him, and 10 mins later they leave together. Wtf is that shit? or perhaps the whole playing games issue of I'm interested in him until he's interested in me and then I'm not interested anymore, or not being clear if you actually like a guy, and want him to do things with you. You know before you blow up on a guy for not respecting your feelings, or understanding you, stop and ask yourself, "have I told him in direct terms what I feel and what I expect?" "did he respond clearly about what it is he wants", and did I recognize and accept it" "am I overreacting" because I believe probably 90 percent of the time 1 of those 3 things you haven't done. Damn, I'm running out of gas. I'm trying to get it all out before I crash.
Look, nobody is at fault 100 percent of the time, but ladies, stop, remember, and accept, guys are extremely simple. More simple than you think. If he likes you, he'll show it, and if you don't know ask, cause he will tell you, and if he plays games and you don't like it stop wasting your time and move on. He's not worth it to begin with, if you have a decent self image, are confident, and not so bitchy you will have plenty of suiters, trust me. And if you find that guy and you want to keep him around its real simple. Spontaneous bouts of sexual expression and affection(random head, sex, even molestation), cooking for him (no matter how much you might suck), good head (I can't stress that enough), and not bitching/nagging at him so much about how his gift may have disappointed you, or that he didn't remember your 6 month anniversary, and trust me he will stay and be very happy to do so.
Damn, I probably left out a bunch of stuff, but thats ok. I've said enough for now. Anyone who finds this interesting or truthful come back in a little while and I'll explain what guys need to do and what's expected of them. Any comments or responses regarding this nonsensical garbage would be appreciated. Also, sorry for any typo's or grammatcial errors. I don't give a fuck. Peace.
