What do you do when life lets you down? Have you ever felt like it is not going the way it should? Join me (JB Glossinger) today as we discuss how to get through the tough times in life.
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Episode 2922 When Life Lets You Down
[00:00:06] Good morning and welcome to Morning Coach today. I am so glad you’re with us. As you know, my name’s J.B. Glossinger, and this is your personal evolution system, the place to get your day started right. Welcome, welcome, welcome, and I’m so glad you’re with me today as we’re getting ready to do it. It is a fun day. I hope you had a great weekend. Hey, if you’re in Australia, I hope you’re getting ready for a great week because it’s already Monday. You’re already ahead of us, which is always awesome. And if you’re here in the USA or wherever you’re at in the world no matter what time it is, I hope you’re having some great energy. I really do. Because that’s what it’s about.
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[00:02:48] Today’s a really cool topic. We’re going to talk about “when life lets you down,” and I think it’s something that we all need to kind of look at once in a while because life will let you down in certain times, and it doesn’t go the way that we think it should, or maybe something happens that, you know, we have a problem or just something happens in your life. Right? And there’s all kinds of things happening all the time that make it more difficult to live, and that’s life. I mean, it’s an experience of life. Why do bad things that we judge as bad happen? It’s life. It’s the experience you’re going through. And so, when things happen like that and life lets you down and you go through something, you have to really try to figure out what is going on within the experience.
[00:03:31] Now, if it’s something traumatic or something serious, as we have had morning Coach Members go through, a lot of times you need to get some therapy. So, what I’m going to teach you today is not therapy. It’s not about digging in deep and really getting the help that you need for dealing with something. It’s more about just life in general. So, you kind of know the events that you have gone through that are really serious that you need to go get some help that you can’t really self-coach yourself through. But for those events that happened- maybe you didn’t have a goal, maybe, you know, your relationship kind of went the other direction, maybe things aren’t working for you in the way that you want them to- those are kind of self-coached areas that we can work through together, and that’s what I really can help you with. Right? And the deeper issues that you’ve got to really dig into and try to figure out, there’s a lot of wonderful professionals out there that can help you deal with that.
[00:04:21] But for you, when you feel like it’s not going or life has let you down, there’s a couple of things that I would like you to do. 1) I like to start over fresh today. The beautiful thing of life is every time we go to bed we have an opportunity to kind of restart our life. And I know that seems difficult the older you get and the more you get into life. It’s like, “Oh, I can’t restart,” but you can. You know, nobody’s making you do what you have to do day in and day out. You can make changes right now. You can start to change the way you do things. A lot of people don’t like change. Here at Morning Coach, I had to make changes this year. You know, we went back to a course model. We opened up for a little while. We closed it. You know, those are little changes that I had to make, right? And not a lot of people like that. A lot of people didn’t like it. You know, and people resist change. But the truth is, if it’s not working, change it. OK? If life is not going a direction you want it to, make changes. And those changes can really make a big difference in your life. So, that’s a first thing. Just recognize that you can make changes, and you can start today over fresh if you wanted to.
[00:05:20] The other thing is that we always got to be constantly reframing. And this is a challenging way, but it’s a lifestyle. And the reframe is to find the hidden gem of the positive in whatever situation you’ve been in it. And really this is a lifestyle way to live. It’s kind of being an optimist, right? You’re always trying to find that shred of positivity in whatever you’ve gone through. So, if you’ve broken up with somebody and the relationship has soured, you’ve got to find the good in there. Maybe it was for a reason. Maybe you guys weren’t getting along, right? Instead of dwelling on all the negative things, digging in and trying to find that hidden gem of positivity is so critical. Right?
[00:05:59] We can’t connect the dots until later in life, and that comes from Steve Jobs. If you ever get a chance to listen to the Steve Jobs commencement speech,- and I have it in Motivation 101, I believe, in one of the courses- he talks about, you know, not understanding in life that sometimes negative things occur and you can’t connect the dots until you get older. Right? And then you start to see why all those things happen in your life. So, reframe as you’re going along, and realize you can’t connect the dots, and for some reason, whatever you’ve went through is something that you probably needed to go through or you went through it because you’re going to come out the other side in some way. Right?
[00:06:38] And so, we’ve got to be very cautious of not allowing ourselves to get too absorbed in the negative and not see the positive and find that positive. So, we got always got to search for it. Now, it’s a lot easier said than done when you’re, when you’re going through the negative. Right? I mean it’s just difficult. And believe me, and many times that I’ve gone through it, it’s been hard to, you know, to find out. You know, when I wrote the book and we lost the house and things weren’t going if somebody said, “Oh, just find the hidden gem of positivity,” I was giving the big, you know, four letter word. “You’ve got to be kidding me. What are you talking about? Find the positive? There’s nothing positive about this.” But the truth is, I wouldn’t be here today if I didn’t go through that. Right? So, we’ve got to, we’ve got to just constantly be searching for the positive.
[00:07:21] The other thing is, we’ve got to watch the victim mentality. A lot of times when life doesn’t go, I think people get angry and jaded. And this leads to loneliness, and this leads to, you know, really negative behavior. You know, isolation. Frustration. And I believe this is one of the biggest problems we have in the world today. I believe most people believe they’re a victim of life, and instead of having gratitude and love for their life, they become more and more of a victim. They become more and more isolated. They become more and more angry. They become polarized to certain issues, and they are just vicious. Right?
[00:07:53] And you can see it as you walk around today. And believe me, the media, the politicians, everybody’s not helping us with this. And we’ve got this really victim mentality that everybody is a victim. “I’m a victim because they did something to me,” or something happened. And you got to watch that. The victim mentality is a sinking ship. And it doesn’t help you to overcome. It doesn’t help you move forward, and it keeps you from really living a great life. Anytime you’re a victim, you can’t be strong. You can’t posture. You can’t have that posture and presence.
[00:08:24] You got to accept that life has brought it to you, here now, and then move on, you know? And that’s my next point. Accept it and move. Accept and move. “This is where I’m at. This is where we’re going to change. These are the things we’re going to do, and we’re going to make some changes here.” So, when life lets you down, right, it’s time to suck it up, suck it up, buttercup. That’s the old saying, “suck it up buttercup.” Accept it. Understand where you’re at, and let’s get moving a little bit. OK?
[00:08:50] And this happens to me a lot. I mean, I’m just like you. I mean, there’s times I’m not consistent. I’m not doing the things that I need to do. You know, life kind of let’s me down. It didn’t turn out the way I thought it was going to. I launched some product or, you know, some program or some event, and it just didn’t turn out. I get frustrated, you know? And I say, “Oh, it’s my fault. I didn’t do this right. I didn’t do that right.” I start getting envious of other people. You ever been there? Right? Got to watch that. OK? Just accept it, learn from it, and move on. Very important.
[00:09:17] Another thing that’s really important in dealing with the situation when life let you down is don’t worry about what other people think. We do so many things in life for other people. We truly do. And so, when something doesn’t work and we think we’re going to impress other people- maybe getting that car, getting that house or that new career or something- we get frustrated. So, stop worrying about what other people think, and focus on you and your family and building in that environment. And your friends. And your loved ones. And build community. And don’t worry about other people, what they think about you. Get people around you you don’t have to worry about that. OK? That’s such an important part.
[00:09:51] Things will change when you take action. So, whatever’s going on that has let you down and things aren’t working- and again, you can put this in your toolbox and come to listen to this again when you need it- but when things aren’t going the direction and the way that want, then you’ve got to change. You’ve got to take some actions. They will change when you take action. Start moving in a different direction. And again, life is dynamic; it’s not static. If you want to make change, you can make change. Nobody is forcing you to do what you’re doing right now with a gun to your head. Nobody. You can make the changes that you need to make. But you got to do it. You’ve got to take action. And a lot of times, those things are very scary.
[00:10:28] Now, I’ve taught you ILD. You can go in and listen to the course and go through the videos. You can get a different way of thinking, right? I would never tell you to quit your job to go follow your dream. But that’s what I did. So, as I tell you not to do that because I think I could did it better, I wouldn’t be here if I didn’t take that risk. Right? So, sometimes you’ve got to take massive action if it’s not working. And for me it wasn’t. I had money, but I was frustrated and was unhappy. I took action. I quit my job, wrote my book, and went out there and failed. That’s what I did. I failed, but I took action. And through that failure, I learned. And then I failed again, and I failed again, and I failed again, and I failed again, and I failed again, and now we’re here, and I’m still failing. But I’m learning more at every step of the way. Every failure gets me closer to my dreams and helps me move forward and helps me learn. It helps me learn much.
[00:11:14] So, just get yourself in a place where, if you want change, take action. Don’t wait for the perfect time. You know, I was just speaking with one of my coaching clients the other day, and she said, you know, “I’ve got to do this.” And she goes, “I know I’m waiting for the perfect time.” There is never a perfect time. The best time is now. Best- the Chinese proverb, right?- best time to plant an oak tree is 20 years ago or today. So, we need to plant some oak trees today. So, that will be important. OK?
[00:11:41] The other thing, when life gets you down, get Grateful. I mean. you need to be eternally grateful every moment. This is something that I want to pound into your head that will make all the difference in the world, that when you start your day with gratitude, when you end your day with gratitude, when you live your life with gratitude, everything changes. It’s hard to be angry, it’s hard to be depressed, it’s hard to be frustrated, when you’re grateful. And you gotta start to be grateful.
[00:12:03] And the little things, we take for granted so many things in life. We take for granted the sun coming up. We take for granted that we can get on an airplane and travel around the world. We take for granted that Hollywood is making movies for 100 million dollars to please me or you for two and a half hours. Just think of all the things! The science breakthroughs. We have so many things to be grateful. Clean food. Water. We have so many things to be grateful for! But we take them all for granted, and we get angry, and we live in frustration. It doesn’t make any sense to me. But it is the way that most people live.
[00:12:34] Most people live in anger and frustration when, truly, we have cars, we have food, we have communication channels, we have ways to have great relationships. We have so many blessings in our life, but so many people are spitting in the face of God. Really. I mean, when you’re angry and you’re frustrated and you hate your life, you’re spitting in the face of God. And there’s no reason for it. I just, it drives me nuts. We have this psychological condition of hate. We have this psychological condition of frustration. And it all comes from not being grateful. That’s where it comes from.
[00:13:05] Be grateful! People hate Google. How can you hate Google? They give you the search engine for free. You can go in there and search anything. We don’t have to go to the library any more. You can find anything. I mean, I couldn’t even imagine having that in college like the kids do today. But people hate them. Why do they hate Google? People hate Apple. “I hate Apple. They’re too big of a company.” Why do you hate Apple? They make great products. I don’t understand. Right? For me, it’s hard to comprehend because I live a very grateful life, and I want you to too. So, be grateful for the things that people do. Be grateful for the, you know, the stuff people are putting out. I even get e-mails. I mean, people get angry at me, “I can’t believe you sent me an e-mail on that course again. I didn’t want that course.” But geez, I mean, aren’t you grateful I’m least making an attempt? You know, it’s pretty amazing, you know? So, we want to be grateful.
[00:13:53] Understand that the past does not equal the future, that we can make the changes. The past is electricity in your mind anyways. So, we can, we can make the changes that we need to make. The future can be different, this continuum of the now. But we’ve got to start to believe. We got to see things differently. And that’s what we’re doing here at Morning Coach. So, find that faith. We had a great week of faith. It was awesome. Such a great week. Find that faith, and suck it up, buttercup. Let’s enjoy this life, but watch being a victim. Reframe to the positive. Accept it, and let’s move forward.
[00:14:27] And that’s what we’re going to do together right here at Morning Coach. OK? So I love you. Get out there. Have a great one. Keep the energy going. If you need me, you know where to get me. And I will be back right here, tomorrow, to get your week started, and it’s going to be a good one next week. But, hey, before we start next week, let’s enjoy the day. I love you. Go have a great one, and I will be right back here tomorrow morning on morningcoach.com.
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