By Carol Surya, author, psychologist, game developer and workshop facilitator.Her practical Parenting book, ParentMagic – Raising Kids Positively (2016), and children’s self esteem game InnerMagic, both stem from  experience gained over the last 20 years working with children (and their parents) worldwide. Is positive parenting simply about being ‘positive’ towards our kids? Is it about talking positively instead of negatively, or disciplining without loosing your cool? Actually positive parenting is being seen as an entire way of being that values growth, well-being, relationships and happiness, above all else. At it’s core, it’s about focusing on what’s right with your children and intentionally strengthening the relationship you have with them. Psychologists know that a close parent-child relationship motivates our kids to behave from a place of care and love (not from fear). In this approach we learn to set out clear expectations and consequences and get them to co-operate willingly. Talking and responding in ways that encourage and reinforce good behaviour really works. Managing your kids in this win-win way actually teaches responsibility and builds self-esteem, while avoiding punishment. Simple tips can quickly and powerfully turn your parenting around. So given the right ingredients (and a bit of practise), it is no wonder that positive parenting strategies begin to work effortlessly!Here are a few positive parenting tips: go down to their eye-level – this