Regardless of where you are in the Relationship or what’s happening, you can and you should make your girl feel loved.. and special.

But, why would you want to do this? You see, when you do, you indirectly strengthen the connection between you two. If you are really serious about keeping your woman around, winning her over and having her around for the long run, then making her feel special should be at the top of your priorities.

Making your woman feel loved and special when you are together is critical to winning her over and staying in a fulfilling relationship. If you are able to make her feel as though she is someone you are putting a lot of thought, emotion, and energy towards, she is likely going to feel amazing about you and the important role you are going to play in her life.

The following are some things you can do to make her feel special. Blokes, I know that sometimes you might look at this and go “yeah, I know that! that’s pretty obvious!” … but seriously it’s a matter of wanting to do it and doing it continuously. The benefits you get from making her feel like she is the only girl in the world is worth the effort. Trust me, I’ve been doing it for years!

Be Genuinely Interested

It’s totally fine to talk about yourself, but if you want to make her feel special, then you have to make her feel as if you are genuinely interested in her. Ask questions about her hopes, dreams, family, interest, and friends. The more you let her tell you personal things about her, and validate her as fascinating and interesting to you, the better she will feel when she is around you.

Even something as simple as asking “how is your day” can put a smile on her face.

Tips: Ok, I am one to admit we men don’t have the best attention span. That said, some days the “how is your day ?” question could lead to her spending hours talking about what a bitch Sasha from accounts department has been and how the rest of the world has a vendetta against her.  It’s easy to sometime turn off and watch tv/checkout phone/think about sex. But if you are in this situation, try your best to give her a cuddle and tell her everything is going to be ok.

Make Time for Her

It can be tempting to make her feel you are hard to get or look like you are leading a busy life, but if you are really serious about making her feel special, quit playing games. Make time for her; let her know that seeing her is very important to you. Of course, this does not mean you have to be clingy, call off or cancel important activities and events. It just means you should show her that you really want to be with her when you can make the time.

Tips: If you decided to spontaneously want to hang out, expect that she may have plans prior. If so, be a gentleman about it and don’t give her a hard time. You can’t expect her to sit around waiting for you to be ready.

Text Her

You don’t need to keep contact with your girlfriend all the time. Especially since you are not fully committed to each other, she won’t expect you to text her all the time. She will expect you to text when you want to hang out with her or set up a date. But when you send her a text out of nowhere asking how she is doing, she is likely going to feel special knowing that you are thinking about her.

Tips: Dick pics are not considered as asking ‘how she is doing’.  It does not have to be a lovey-dovey text either. Sometimes just a ‘checking in to see how you doing?’ is enough to put a smile on her face.

Treat Her Like a Lady

Women can take care of themselves, but they feel loved and special when someone wants to take care of them. Hold the door open for her. Pull her seat out. Help her out of the car. Chivalry is not dead mate. Always do things that make her feel important and special.

Tips:  Different girls have a different stance about this. Try it first and if she is not into the whole ‘hold door open’ thing, there are always other things you can do.  Some girls may not be used to it and get taken aback.  If you are not sure, ask. I once dated a girl who told me that the only way she feels like she is being treated like a lady is when the man does things like; cook for her and rub her feet after a long day.

Listen to Her

When you first started dating, she is likely going to give you some insight into what she likes and who she is. Use that information on your next dates and show her that you were paying attention. For example, buy her something she said she likes or take her to a place she was talking about.

The simple act of listening to what she’s saying, and showing her that you heard her, will go a long way in making her feel special. I won so many brownie points for doing this it’s not funny…

Tips: Listening is the bomb diggity. If you ask a woman straight up “what do you want?” she will probably hesitate. But just leave her to be wandering around, saying out loud about whats on her mind; that’s gold right there. She tells you without really telling you. It’s not a trick, they all do that. Most of the times she is too busy looking after others to think about what she wants. But when you get her during a time where she is just talking freely…. listen properly. It’ll shorten the war and save millions of lives.

Eye Contact

If you are really serious about making her feel special, then don’t eyeball every pretty lady that comes in the room.  Better still, keep your eyes on her at all times and let her know that you are interested in her.

Tips: Well, I know that’s not going to be easy. Sometimes it’s just there, and your eyes happen to be ready for viewing. Perhaps keep the ‘checking out other chicks’ look down to 1 or 2 Mississippi’s. Well, at least that’s what I have agreed with the wife!

Tell Your Friends About Her

This is the creme de la creme when it comes to making her feel special. Validation. If your workmate or friends call, and she is there, don’t act like you are doing nothing. Rather, tell them that you are spending time with her. Don’t forget to mention her name.

The very act of telling your colleagues and friends that you are with her will make it clear to her that she has an important place in your life and that you are not scared to tell others that she is your girlfriend. This is ultimately going to make her feel important.

Tips: This is important to her. Especially if you are in a proper relationship. Fucking this one up will change the dynamic of your relationship pretty quickly.  When you tell the whole world that you are with her, that is it. No hiding, it’s not a secret fling or a booty call, she is a real deal. When you don’t acknowledge her, it means you are not taking your relationship seriously and it might make her think that you are looking out for something better. This does not mean you should acknowledge her right away. When you both are ready but don’t make her think you guys got something special when you are not on the same page.

Tell Her How Beautiful She Is

Women never get sick of hearing this. If you are with her, then you must think she is attractive and beautiful, or at least she hopes you do.  You should constantly remind her of how wonderful she is. If you do not tell her, she won’t know.

Tips: I once took the wife to this crappy museum. The museum was so old school that they still play their information through a projector. While watching the information, the dim light the passed through her face made her look stunning and I told her that. There have been hundreds if not thousands of ‘you look good baby’ since, but that one at the museum remained to be one of her favourites and a memorable one. It made her happy.

Stand Up For Her

She likely has people in her life that put down her goals, dreams, or ideas. If you happen to be around when they do, stand up for her. Boldly tell them that she is doing great or working towards something special.

The power of speaking up for your girlfriend in front of people who don’t believe in her is enormous. You will offset their negative response with a supportive and loving one. That will give her strength, security make her feel like she can do anything!

Tips: Speak up, not pick up fights. Women have complicated relationships with people around her and you don’t want to become a shit stirrer.

Don’t Forget Important Dates

Forgetting anniversaries and birthdays are often laughed at on comedy shows. But in reality, it makes a woman feel sad, unappreciated and unimportant. When you cannot remember the little things that matter most to her, then you are indirectly showing her that you do not care about what matters most to her. Note down all the important dates in her life, and make sure you remember them so that she can feel special.

Tips: Ultimately, this boils down to thoughts. Which us men aren’t the best at. Women are just so much better at the attention to details. But there is a way to cheat. Use your Phone calendar to remind you of the important dates a month before, a week before and on the day. I know it sounds elaborate, but its all about preparation. 1 month give you enough time to start worrying about presents/plans. This is when listening would have helped. 1 week before is to make sure you have all your ducks in a row.  So on the day, you can just swoop her off her feet on her special day with this thing she has always wanted.

If you don’t make your girlfriend feel special during your relationship, then her rocklike confidence in your intentions will slowly ebb away. She will eventually start to wonder how much she means to you. When this happens, relationship problems start to occur. But all this can be avoided. If you are able to apply the tips in this article, she is going to feel loved and you can then pretty much get away with anything.

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