In the first moment of flesh upon flesh,
spirit begins to open one of its blooms.

How one approaches that aspect of spirit afterward
depends on what one felt in that moment. 

There are approved Myths that tell one 
what that feeling should be;

one says, one should, one feels, one does…no.
Talk to me, talk to yourself, take agency.

Let go of the impersonal, the passive voice.
If you bloom yourself after, then bloom. 

If you don’t — ah, do not even listen to me. Just this:
the myths call it “deflowering” as an insult.

Take your fragrance and beauty wherever you find it.
Spirit is a different field for everyone

and there may be a carpet of flowers in yours,
or none at all.