We have come so far as a family and me as a person that sometimes looking back, I can’t believe it.  From starting out myself, such a full on rebel that I slowed down and set my ship sailing straight a little later in life than the average Joe.   All the “if onlys” always crop up with age I suppose.  I’m not complaining at all.  Life is a learning experience and how you get there is how one learns.  It’s all the bumps and bruises along the way that are trying on how you turn out.  I mean that there are those who are always positive, and turn problems into opportunities, and then there are those who let things get them down.  Staying down is a rough place to be.  Glad for the woman I married, as she brings me joy every day.  My Wife and I should have been high school sweethearts, but even though we did go to the same school in SE Michigan, we didn’t know each other then.   She was an excellent student and put effort into her studies, and that’s what I lacked myself.  All I wanted to do when I was in my late teens was music.   We met when I was on one of my first jobs, and it went from there.  My wife is the responsible and meticulous one, while I tend to daydream a bit too much.  When I was a younger Eugene I might have done well to join some of those clubs at the school that my group all thought were for dorks.  Eugene Pallisco of that day was not interested in intellectual pursuits at that time.  LOL how you can’t go back.  I love how my wife is very understanding about my passion, and I prefer being married than living the single life.  I’ve learned to compartmentalize my music time separately from almost everything else in my life.

Just when I had the whole marriage thing working with my music thing, along comes my first child.  THAT was a whole new change in my life with many things I wasn’t expecting.  Through it all I appreciate having become a husband before fatherhood.  In my case, it was good for me to take each added responsibility in stride and not let either affect my creativity or the demands of performing.  So the takeaway of it all is what works for me might work for you if you’re having a go at music and still want to have a life.