L.M. Bennett was 35-years-old when she entered the dating world. After years of struggling with her weight, Bennett underwent bariatric surgery. With a new found confidence and overcoming body-image issues, Bennett decided it was time to seek out someone to begin a relationship with.

Easier said than done, right?

Dating those that put you down in front of others is always a fun experience. Or how about the one who won’t let you go and sends way too many texts after the relationship is over?

Like it or not, we’ve all been there at one point or another.

“This plan for true happiness doesn’t start with finding the right one. It starts with knowing that you are the right one. It starts with loving yourself first and loving yourself the most.”

Bennett goes through and retells stories of past experiences that lead her to the realization of what it means to date in today’s world. Dating apps aren’t always right and you can easily stumble upon the wrong profile. Bennett is here to tell you why that happens, how to deal with it, and how to find the right person.

My Thoughts

I enjoy non-fiction books that put you in the same room as the author. The Accidental Tsundere reads as if you were speaking with Bennett face-to-face. Some of the statements had me laughing with their sarcastic but true take on society.

Reader beware. Part of this conversational tone comes with a lot of curse words. So if you are easily offended by that, this may not be the right read for you. That’s who Bennett is, she doesn’t sugar coat anything.

All curse words aside, the advice in this book is great. Through her own accounts of past relationships, Bennett exposes what she learned about loving herself. Dating starts with knowing who you are, what you stand for, and what shit you shouldn’t put up with.

She gives general advice that you would think others would know by now. For example, how on a first date the man should pay for dinner. But for some reason, she experienced picking up the bill. And if on a date with someone of the same sex, to split the bill evenly.

As someone who had a toxic relationship years ago, I really liked that she goes into both ways of dealing with a breakup. She explains how to deal with someone who wants to maintain a friendship with you, and what to do if you don’t want to keep in touch with them. I could definitely identify with the later and I’m glad to hear that the way I handled it, was the way she advises to.

I definitely recommend this to anyone struggling in the dating world. Bennett’s raw account of what she dealt with and her advice is something that will give you the confidence needed to find that special someone.