Slowly becoming a grown-up made me see the world and every person around me differently, I also see myself differently.

The Bible taught me that I’m special, fearfully and wonderfully made. My friend also keeps reminding me this and that no one can tell me otherwise because I AM fearfully and wonderfully made.

Psalm 139:14: “I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.”

When I was younger I was fine with being the only one in my friend group who didn’t have a boyfriend, dating or ‘messing’ around. But at some point it also made me feel left out. There were days that I thought I wasn’t going through the high school experience with the handsome prom date you see in movies, or guys drooling over me and asking me out on dates. I compared myself to my beautiful friends and their amazing boyfriends and wondered; what is wrong with me then?

1 Corinthians 7:8-9: “To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single, as I am. But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.”

I used to dream about finding the right guy in the Library or on the train. He would ask me what I was reading or what kind of music I was listing to. But since I haven’t stepped foot in a library because of the many fines I had to pay due to returning the library books too late, that part of my daydream faded away.

He would ask to start a conversation because he was genuinely interested. That would be the beginning of our love story, just a simple encounter. (The funny thing is that I’m still holding on to this though for hope lol.) *sigh*

But life isn’t about meeting the perfect husband or wife in a library, public transportation or nowadays on whatever dating app, there is. It’s about more than that. It’s about first becoming a bride or groom for God. A Godly relationship is when two Godly people meet and love each other.

1 Corinthians 7:32-35: “I want you to be free from anxieties. The unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to please the Lord. But the married man is anxious about worldly things, how to please his wife, and his interests are divided. And the unmarried or betrothed woman is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to be holy in body and spirit. But the married woman is anxious about worldly things, how to please her husband. I say this for your own benefit, not to lay any restraint upon you, but to promote good order and to secure your undivided devotion to the Lord.”

To sum it all up, it’s okay to be single. Just because your friends are dating doesn’t mean you should too. Being single gives you the room to get to know God better and first become his bride. (or groom) In the time that you will face challenges along the way that will shape you into the husband or wife, you were meant to be one day.

Pros of being single:

• Spending more time with God
• Putting yourself first
• Learn to appreciate your worth & love yourself
• Learning to do life on your own
• You can do whatever you want
• You can travel the world if you want to

Stephanie May Wilson
Podcast: #7: How To Survive A Breakup (and even thrive!)
Blog: Stephanie May Wilson

Here is a (Dutch, with English subtitle) video of a friend of mine who shares her life story and what God means to her:

Lakshana
Instagram: @lakshanalysandra
Youtube: lakshanalysandra

xo, Gely