Chivalry isn’t dead. We just don’t Love like we used to. More and more people everyday are deciding to settle for comfortability and not what their heart is actually telling them. Either because, It’s too hard or sounds, feels and is quite crazy. But isn’t that the point? To have your heart and feelings in a state where It’s never been before? There’s too many people loving out of fear and routine, not admitting mistakes and growing pains. We aren’t opening doors and making a random day special anymore, all the hallmark holidays do that for us now.

Somehow one day annually of make believe can put on enough of a show to have people forget about how the person they’re with hasn’t been what it used to be for the last 3 or 20 years. Like it just resets every year. I don’t get it. Chivalry is alive and well, It’s just forgotten about by the mass of relationships that shouldn’t be playing house together. We as a society have even coined terms like, “honeymoon phase” and say phrases like, “ Oh I remember when I was young and In love” What the hell do you mean? Whether you’re 17 or 47, you’re supposed to be feeling everything. Youth is not an excuse to not have an incredible relationship that you can be proud of. Putting someone you “love” first, should be instinct. As long as it’s real and true. Not shaded darker than the color of deep blue. Divorce rates are higher than ever and only getting worse. I, like many grew up in a house where love really wasn’t a priority. It was more so, just how to make it another month, every month. I don’t want to live a month to month lifestyle and neither should you if you’re reading this. You deserve more. Be honest. Be happy. Live like you never thought you could. Want more. Don’t get caught up in what used to be. Don’t settle for less and know what second best feels like. I wish for a world full of boundless love, I’m a hopeless romantic, that’s what I do. At the same time, I’m aware fairytales sound so impossible and childish because of how truly rare they are. Don’t let how much time together with someone dictate what your next move is. Feel the moment and let your mind take a backseat when It comes to love, your heart can drive. It’ll run a few red lights and get pulled over more than a couple times but, believe me, that’s still safer than a clean driving record and drowning your heart in logic. Regret is terrifying and life is filled with it but, don’t let love be apart of that. Say what needs to be said and listen to what happiness is telling you. Not all the whispers of what “makes more sense”. Be on the receiving end of a new last name,  for the sole reason of it giving you more confidence than you ever knew existed. Playing it safe will catch up to you. Whether It’s your child doing the realizing when they’re all grown up or in a couple years when it all hits you. Don’t ignore anything you’re feeling. Crazy is good. Crazy is great. Love isn’t supposed to make sense and It’s never too late to feel that. I’m always rooting for a Nicholas sparks novel kind of love but the truth is, those movies are popular because it strikes a chord in people that hasn’t been strung in years. I don’t think people realize that you can have your own sparks on your own big screen. Being brutally honest, a large amount of patience and passion that just isn’t found at the top of your heart, It’s from the bottom and incredibly hard to get to. Chivalry isn’t dead, we’re all just liars.