QuoteofTheWeek: There is only one happiness in this life, to love and be loved… Let’s all learn to Love; Love. 

All 2018 Communication is KEY and learning your Love Language. I mean building healthy, stable, long-lasting and well-bonded relationships. I mean when it comes to communicating you have to learn how to simply ask for what you want and if they can’t provide that then it’s maybe not for you. You’d want someone who communicates with you and understands what you want and need. You can teach them but in order for them to receive you have to be sure that they are open and ready for the task. No one wants boring conversation especially with someone they may be interested in. In a healthy relationship, you should want someone who is supportive, passionate, caring, strong minded, honest, loving and more. They know wassup and what they want as well. You don’t have to question  nothing but the date you’re going on tonight because your partner like surprising you. No longer settle for what’s not for you. So its best to ask for exactly what you want and how you want it. Make things clear and put It all on the table so that you guys are on the same page. It hard to keep writing if we’re on 2 different pages. Remember what you can’t do for or in this relationship it’s someone else willing to move you out the way and do what you should have been doing all along. It will hurt for a while but good things come to those who wait and I’d rather wait to be on the same page in my relationship. So as for what you want and don’t settle for what you think you should have this goes for men and woman.

Are you speaking my Love Language? We all know how we want to be loved but we all don’t know how to love. Some people have been hurt so many times by the people they thought had them or love them the most that now it’s hard for them to love the next person. This also comes with communication and getting each other on the same page. Express what you can and can’t do, then express how we can fix It together. Before you go further ask yourself is the person your seeing now, dating now, active with now or even in a full relationship now the one for you? Then ask yourself are you sticking around because you simply want to be chosen, are you settling or are you there because you genuinely want to be in it. Remember there are positives and negatives that come with a person so you have to be willing to accept what comes with a person. We do know that things do start out amazing, the words are cute and the actions match but what do you do when the words fade, the action barely match and you question whether it’s other People in the picture now? If you truly care and love someone you make an effort to change and be honest. Then you decided if your willing to fight and chase in order to make things work. That’s why expressing the way we love is key. We sometimes try to make the person wrong or things go wrong so we can find a good escape. Then we can escape with some clarity. Communicate that your love language feeds your soul and if you love each other and share the same feelings about what drives the relationship then it will work. You will make an effort to give each other what you want and need.

Sometimes you have to teach exactly what you need and want when it comes to a relationship. Like express feelings, thoughts, concerns and tell him or Her if you need It lower, slower, or ever a little to the left. Help them help you; guide them so you don’t get lost. It’s a lot Im sure we don’t know but with effort and communication, we can learn. You don’t want to wonder forever in a relationship because It creates a sense of instability. Men and women want to know that the ground they stand on with each other is stable and firm. Be able to adjust want it is and isn’t so you don’t sting along anyone feelings and or time. Don’t make he or she think It can work knowing you’ve already checked out and made a decision It won’t work. It’s okay to teach them not give them the answers to your heart. Iyanal says “You don’t get to tell people how to Love you, you get to experience the way they love then decided if you want to participate. You also get to ask for what you want/need of them then observe their efforts to provide what you have asked for.” Please note some people don’t have the capacity to love you the way you need them to love you. In most cases, it’s simply because they don’t know or they have never felt, heard or even experienced what real love feels like themselves. So take it from me if that relationship is for you and you’re both speaking the same love language, you’re communicating with each other and your willingness to believe you can have everything you want then believing your partner can fulfill that then I would say you’ve got something good going here… Thanks for reading guys and Happy Love Day!!!!

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