Since the first day I started blogging, I've used the quote, "The journey of life isn't about becoming anything. It's about unbecoming everything that isn't really you, so you can be who you were meant to be in the first place." This quote reminds me how being yourself, the unique and special, the irreplaceable and superb individual is especially important. Being yourself, as many have mistaken, doesn't entirely mean you can do whatever you want, like sell drugs, murder or even rob. Being yourself means being true to yourself, not changing your inner self following what society demands, not forgetting your roots in a legal and moral manner.
Since America legalised Gay Marriage in the year 2015, many people showed support towards homosexuals, but many of them protested in a very fierce manner, saying that America is going downhill with this act. Many of those who refused to Accept gay marriage are either religious-bound, homophobias or just those people who are overly "fanatic" towards "you should Love someone from a different gender because that is just how nature works." Now I'm not saying what they said are wrong, since indeed "God created Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve." I assume a majority of people heard of that saying before. But do you think those who are so called "gay" want themselves to be like that? Maybe they have tried so hard to change their sexuality, but in the end admitting it saying, "I'm just like that since birth."
Now setting aside any religious views, I do think people have their own human rights to decide what they like and how they would like to live. Since the era of Enlightenment in England, many scholars and intellectuals have stood up to claim that no one have the rights to deprive of anyone's God-given rights, for instance money, freedom and lives. If they do, they shall be punished, probably imprisoned or killed. So since this is the case, why choose to suit yourself according to what "nature" demands instead of pursuing what you love and enjoy?
Perhaps people would say that those homosexuals would get a different kind of view from the public surrounding them. It's weird seeing gays walking in the streets, holding hands, kissing each other and flirting. Some may even feel disgusted, and in a worse scenario, they would commit a violent act because they just couldn't accept someone being "not normal" in front of them. But ask yourself, do you really want to let those strangers bind your life? They have the rights to love their opposite gender, but why not you liking your same gender? Everyone has their own needs and thoughts, and we shouldn't let how others view us stops us from what we love most. This isn't their lives, but yours. Your life, your rules. Your life is entirely defined by yourself, no one can define it for you, let alone influence you.
I've heard gays saying that they are just born like that, and there's nothing they can do to change themselves. To be frank, I trust that if you are really in to changing yourselves, there is nothing that can stop you, you will strive your best to achieve your goals. But if that's what you like, you really don't have to change it for the sake of other people. You change only when you are dissatisfied, but if you're happy with it, and you allow yourself to be like that, go on, no harm or whatsoever. However, if you really can't accept people viewing you from a different perspective, the only two advices I would give is, either change or stay single. That way, only you yourselves would be clear that you are "different".
I do hope that if you have gay friends, try to accept them the way they are and try to understand their needs. The path that they have chosen isn't going to be a bed of roses as it's not just the view from people that matters, they do encounter more problems than that. Try to be the best listener they can find, and never judge them for who they are. Do know that they might have suffered a lot changing, but in the end failed miserably with depression following them. Respect them and allow them to be themselves. Let us not give them names and call them gay or whatsoever that is disrespectful, but view them also as a being perfectly created in awe by God. May peace, love and blessings be upon you.
Since America legalised Gay Marriage in the year 2015, many people showed support towards homosexuals, but many of them protested in a very fierce manner, saying that America is going downhill with this act. Many of those who refused to Accept gay marriage are either religious-bound, homophobias or just those people who are overly "fanatic" towards "you should Love someone from a different gender because that is just how nature works." Now I'm not saying what they said are wrong, since indeed "God created Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve." I assume a majority of people heard of that saying before. But do you think those who are so called "gay" want themselves to be like that? Maybe they have tried so hard to change their sexuality, but in the end admitting it saying, "I'm just like that since birth."
Now setting aside any religious views, I do think people have their own human rights to decide what they like and how they would like to live. Since the era of Enlightenment in England, many scholars and intellectuals have stood up to claim that no one have the rights to deprive of anyone's God-given rights, for instance money, freedom and lives. If they do, they shall be punished, probably imprisoned or killed. So since this is the case, why choose to suit yourself according to what "nature" demands instead of pursuing what you love and enjoy?
Perhaps people would say that those homosexuals would get a different kind of view from the public surrounding them. It's weird seeing gays walking in the streets, holding hands, kissing each other and flirting. Some may even feel disgusted, and in a worse scenario, they would commit a violent act because they just couldn't accept someone being "not normal" in front of them. But ask yourself, do you really want to let those strangers bind your life? They have the rights to love their opposite gender, but why not you liking your same gender? Everyone has their own needs and thoughts, and we shouldn't let how others view us stops us from what we love most. This isn't their lives, but yours. Your life, your rules. Your life is entirely defined by yourself, no one can define it for you, let alone influence you.
I've heard gays saying that they are just born like that, and there's nothing they can do to change themselves. To be frank, I trust that if you are really in to changing yourselves, there is nothing that can stop you, you will strive your best to achieve your goals. But if that's what you like, you really don't have to change it for the sake of other people. You change only when you are dissatisfied, but if you're happy with it, and you allow yourself to be like that, go on, no harm or whatsoever. However, if you really can't accept people viewing you from a different perspective, the only two advices I would give is, either change or stay single. That way, only you yourselves would be clear that you are "different".
I do hope that if you have gay friends, try to accept them the way they are and try to understand their needs. The path that they have chosen isn't going to be a bed of roses as it's not just the view from people that matters, they do encounter more problems than that. Try to be the best listener they can find, and never judge them for who they are. Do know that they might have suffered a lot changing, but in the end failed miserably with depression following them. Respect them and allow them to be themselves. Let us not give them names and call them gay or whatsoever that is disrespectful, but view them also as a being perfectly created in awe by God. May peace, love and blessings be upon you.
