Today my eldest son and I went and Bought a Wreath to put at my Husband's grave.  I bought one made out of flat cedar, a red bow and pine cones.  I took some pieces to burn later.  He now has his name engraved on his Stone.  I wished I would have brought my camera to show our Joe.  He stayed home today because the cold weather is bad for his skin.  The rest of the people laid to rest near him fought in World War ll or Korea.  They all died one or two days before he did.  The stone even has Purple Heart below his grade and service information. I think he would like being around those old vets.  It doesn't matter what war they fought in.  He would find commonalities with any who served in a war. I think of him resting around those who really understand what he was going through while alive.  Larry had nightmares every night. Sometimes I would wake up with scratches and bruises on my legs. Thank goodness he wasn't too violent.  He said most nightmares he was frozen stiff and really couldn't move.  Like he was trying to run fast in water.
Larry also had a problem with church.From his boarding school days.  He didn't have a good experience with the Catholic Church.   I don't believe he would like that his stone has a cross on it.  I filled in a form and requested that no engraving about spiritual beliefs be included on his stone. There is only one choice for the Native Americans.  And that is the Tipi and Moon symbol of the Native American Church.  Larry didn't belong to that  religion.  I don't know if I really want to fight about this symbol on his stone right now.  I dont' have the emotional strength to have it changed.  It will just have to wait for when I do.... That was the disappointing part of seeing his stone.  The thing about it is that it matches those around him.