Question 1 : Define a romantic relationship between two lovers?

Question 2 : Define your relation with your father, mother, sister , brother and relatives?

Question 3 : Define friendship?

Actually I will let Question 1 and question 2 for you to answer and don’t worry, they are way much more easier to answer than the third question indeed.

The problem about friendship is not only its complication. it is about its general form I believe myself that love relationship is a special case of friendship between two people of different sex but it involves physical and emotional feelings and durability.

Family relations too are a special case of friendship, your brother or sister is a friend but you both share the same parents and DNA strands Now let us to go through the different kinds of friendship relations which exist all around us:

1-(male-male) friendship: guys actually have the most strong and stable friendship relationships We don’t have any complications of hanging out together and actually male gatherings are very much fun Male friends share every fun aspect that you can ever imagine, we talk about football, movies, songs, fashion, sport , relationships and hot girls.

 We guys enjoy being together which give is much fun , being with guys make you always feel free to say what you want and to be on your nature whatever it is and do all the things you love without feeling any kind of restriction.

We guys don’t care about such shallows topics as girls, Especially when it is about our male friends and girls. It is a golden role for us that losing a friend because of a girl is something humiliating , usually male friends don’t share love triangles and if happened one of them maybe the both will walk away with dignity because his friend is way more important than any girl in the world.

We don’t usually judge ourselves and we accept our friends as they are To summarize everything : we men don’t have the emotional complications that can bring us apart someday, so we usually enjoy being together and it is always fun to be among them.

2-(female-female) relationships:  I wont pretend that I am an expert in this topic really so I will ask girls who will read this to clarify everything and correct me if I am wrong in anything Simply female friendships involves activities like: movies, shopping, gossips and for sure boys Their nature is so emotional and their friendship too, they get into deep of each other characters which makes the probability of their breaking up is too huge.

Girls gossip their friends because it is in their blood to be talkative and to seek for something interesting to complete talking and they can break up several times because of such a type of action.

Girls can break up because of jealousy and they exist a lot in love triangles but they are unlike boys are very sensitive to these kind of dramatic situations but they love being in it “drama addiction characteristics “.

But girls like boys share the freedom and fun of being together and they are for themselves when life gets ugly 

In the end of this point I must say that “single female friends are best friends” but when one of them is taken it cant be like that anymore.

3-(male-female) friendship:Let us go through the main point of this article and the funny part by asking another critical question from my view as a guy Why do I really need a female friend in my life?

 1-as I said we guys usually  don’t share emotional topics unlike females so if you have an emotional problem  “ family problems, work problems, lonely and you need to talk” you can really count on a girl because they                  love to hear from you and participate in finding solution.

 2-they have taste in fashion.

 3-they are well organized and helpful.

 4- if you want to complain about your problems with your girl , girls usually are your best choice in this thing so you can count on a girl too.

 5-choosing presents and consultations in decoration, u know what they say about imperfect art

“it lacks a woman touch “ Now that was the bright side of the story and don’t tell me that what I am writing this article for? The problem of M-F friendship is the disorders of the human nature, the conflict between male and female characters .

When someone find a person who is so honest and nature so sweet and sincere so reliable and trustworthy , someone who is happy to listen and located for you when you feel alone and want someone to talk with and hold your pain or he was the only one who existed in your life when all the world turned his back to you. Any of them can think about getting the other to another category “ the Romantic category “ and this usually become the beginning of the end.

The critical thing about such a condition is its risk, if she really loves you and ready to change her category in your life that will be perfect because I strongly believe in friendship before love theory that makes it more strong and actually very clear, solid and pure.

But eventually the other probability is she wont accept that and all she want will be to become a friend with you but you feel broken , disappointed and maybe humiliated for that so actually you will lose her or to be grown ups and move on with these conditions but the dramatic situation here will leave a scar that will never vanish and doubt will always be there between both of you so u both lost your strong friendship bond and now it is too fragile and can easily be broken which will happen in the end, probably Another problem comes with social traditions and I speak about our oriental Islamic society traditions which is summarized in the whole concept “men and women are not meant to be friends”.

Social complications is divided into two classes:

  1-between them and society: being seen together, going out, gossips and religious concepts , and the fact is   you wont be existed in her life after she gets engaged and you wont ever be there for her because it is not   appropriate for a girl to invite her male friends to such an event “ I am way against that BTW “

   2-between themselves: limitations of friendship, limitations of their characters

 By that I mean taking care of words, clothes and even maybe hiding some of the bad things in their character because it can not been noticed by a creature from the other sex un like being with friends from your sex

There is also other dramatic situations which can exist in our lives related to M-F friendships which can be :

       1-the situation when you are not sure about a girl,s feeling for you and you are scared of losing her so you decide to be around as a friend and try to change this with time

       2-situations involving triangles: you know she is in love with someone and you love her so u can respect that and be just a friend or pretending being a friend for further notice

       3-heartbreak situations: when a girl you love is recently heartbroken and she needs time to be free from relations and you want to be around and you cant show this love in this precisely critical period of her life so you accept being a friend temporarily

      4-break up situations: the dramatic situation of a break up which ends with “ let us be friends”

Usually this reasons for being a friend with a girl is not so that logical or right anyway and lose the core meaning of this good relation which make them usually end with pain and failure especially in point 4

So it is shown that the friendship relation between males and females are so complicated and full of complications and drama I talked about in this article and other things I did not ,this topic really needs a book

But what I think is these kinds of friendships especially in our society are troublesome and actually I don’t consider it a complete friendship relationship , it can be a semi “ friendship”

So let us have the concept of ” benefitizing “ your friendship with females, be there for them and listen to them and give them care and attention , only when they need youDon’t look for a very close friend to listen always to you and be there for you and wont hurt u and understand you completely , only your sister can do this

Don’t expect anything from her , because actually your friendship is temporarily because of the sick traditions we live in Try to choose your female friends: choose open minded girls, smart girls that can give you the support you need and to be trustworthy, you can choose older girls because usually she wont fall in love with you and if you could choose a girl that in a relationship that make the complications get smaller Don’t get into deep inside your female friend character and keep a distance away if you want to avoid hating her or being affected by her character complications and avoid friendship-love transform Just have a female friend when you want a female friend and be a friend when you are called to be a friend, search for the complications and solve it by the way you want or try to be independent of women, try your male friends someone of them are capable of what girls do for you Today I have Three ugly truths not just one

   “ 1-if you are allergic to drama and complications in your life: minimize the number of women involving in it

      2-dream about your perfect female friend and draw a picture for her, you actually you will find her your   MOM

      3-Loving your best female friend will be perfect if it reached it is happy ending  but if it did not , your lose   will be just doubled”