The success of a Relationship or a happy marriage is based on a series of values accepted by both partners, but also knowledge of the dynamics of the couple. Identify steps you through a relationship, and understanding their importance to life in two, part of the conscious effort to build a healthy relationship. In general, a couple that stays together throughout life, no matter how turbulent or harmonious relationship seems, passes through five major phases: Phase romantic awakening to reality, phase stability, commitment and complete its life cycle. Most couples go through these steps in the order they are listed and, before moving to the next stage, you need to successfully resolve conflicts in the previous round. Also, each pair has its own speed of evolution and it happens often to repeat certain phases or oscillate between stages.
1. Step romantic phase of courtship and honeymoon. Every relationship begins with this step, in which both are in love and excited partner, everything else seems to be pink and sex is excellent. Both partners tend to overlook each other’s faults behavior, focusing especially on impressing your partner and there is a slight uncertainty on the stability of the couple. Now you start to find things in common with each other and try to avoid conflicts to protect the relationship. This stage can last from two months to two years and is characterized by excitement and positive energy. However we can not yet speak of true love, and when we feel the need to be ourselves, we try to change the other. This resistance leads to the other and your insistence, triggering a power struggle that characterized the next stage.
2. Power struggle or disappointment. Only now beginning to know him really other.
At this stage each trying to exercise power and little need for freedom or space; each is oriented in a direction opposite to each other. Differences between partners are evident, but the difference is still seen as negative. This step is critical for the survival of the couple. There are many who resort to divorce or couples psychotherapy. That is because emotions are not mastered, each tends to focus on their needs and becomes deaf to the complaints and partner needs. The most important now is that both want his keeping the relationship and be willing to work a little for it – partners need to learn that differences are normal and that must be accepted. Equally important at this stage is to define each within the couple and not become dominant partner.
3. Stability. Step friendship and reconciliation. This step follows the conflict resolution, is crucial because now the two have the opportunity to build a healthy relationship. Now changes can occur both positive and negative. Each other’s behavior and resign themselves to accept reality; It is a quiet time, but there is a great danger: exaggerated individualism and removing other. It can occur boredom, feeling that you have nothing in common with each other, and the emphasis on the present, because the future is still uncertain.
At first resignation may seem like a good thing, but the two must learn that life is continuous change and development. One good thing is that you can use to keep common past relationship. Whether the two wins respect each other, they are returning and the second phase.
4. Commit to each other. Step transformation or true love. Only this time the two are ready for marriage, though many do this step in the first stage of courtship. Both have matured and although physical attractiveness has not disappeared altogether, to genuine platonic relationship. Only now the relationship is a true partnership. Chooses each other in full reconciliation with the past, present and future direction you are turning. The necessity of this step is the balance between love, belonging, fun, power and freedom. You do not need to be with each other, but choose to be with him / her.
5. Completion of the life cycle. At the moment she lives in two goes beyond cohabitation relationship and advancing to the world around them. This “stretching” may include children, a project, a business, etc. There is a risk too great involvement in the outside world and neglecting the couple’s relationship. There must be a separate place for me, you, us and others. This makes it difficult to balance the needs and decisions. The main objective of this phase is CONSTRUCTION of a strong foundation for future generations. The two complement each other and compromise is already an art.
The fast pace of our society has led to relationships remotely. The prognosis of such relationships depends on understanding each other’s ambitions and objectives, and although the distance relationships going through the same stages, the partners are not getting near, intimacy and communication with your partner.
Maturation constant communication helps partners and makes them less dependent on one another. In addition, a regular relationship the two have much time to get to know. Finally, sense of reality, accepting each other’s faults and a lot of patience are the ingredients of a successful relationship.