We have all heard that very repetitive quote “Women do not need good guys, they only want to date assholes”. We DonT NEeD a GoOd gUy! Yes, very often, but the longer you think about it, the more clear it gets. This has never been something women say except the ones who were led to believe this, and it is what the so called self proclaimed good guys say. Nobody else.

So who is that “self proclaimed” dude we all hear about. You probably heard or met that typical male person who is all about being for you. Super helpful, super all over, always around when you need him (or not), kind and agreeing wuth you to an extend you are like “hey, wtf man, get a personality”. He is all for you.

I can’t say I have a type, but I definitely have a filter radar for these fellas. The moment I see a man with a lack of personality I  turn my back, while he screams mean shit at me like “You are uuuuugly anyyyywaaaays” or “You will never find beeeetaaaah”. Oh well. I always do. So who is he?

Self proclaimed

It is in the name. A self proclaimed good guy is a guy who thinks he is great. Noone else confirmed. It is a dude who was led to believe that his way of being nice is all a Woman dreams of, except she somehow does not want anything from him, thus supposedly wanting a bad guy. He is entitled to have you.

Except wait. The “asshole” we hear about is basically anyone who the self proclaimed guy is not. Anyone, you leave him for. Anyone in the entire world. Get it?

He has probably been raised this way by a nurturing mother, who gave it all. All cool and nice, except your son did not learn to have a strong personality and has no idea what he wants. These dudes get into the friend zone really quickly and cry from there.

But is he good?

Calling every man, he is not an asshole, and every woman who does not want him all sorts of other names, is already alarming. No, he is not a good guy, he is a weak guy, who rather pretents to be someone, then face his own self.

He is weak

A lack of strong personality, strong views and opinions can be obviously for many different reasons and we are not here do discuss that. I did date a very weak man for many years. The kind of man who would do anything for you, just not to have an argument, turning me into a seriously mental controlling monster. Luckily it is over, I learned to be good, and he never changed being controlled continuously by the next ones.

And what about all that kindness?

Kindness and respect for the other person should not be rewarded, it should be the most basic part of any relationship between anyone. Those who think they deserve an award for being respectful and “nice” should definitely wake up. Being nice does not make you automatically eligible for the best lady. 

Rejection is unfair

Any girl out there turning her back on the “good guy” is considered an idiot by any of those people. She is called names, she is mentally not ok. Why would a woman do that, right? He is the good guy! (except he is the only one who thinks so). He will not be able to move on and will continue to hate on previous relationships that never worked. “But my mother told me I am a good person”. 

NOBODY, but the person has the right to decide for oneself as to what he/she wants to do and whom he/she wants. Nobody should told they can’t… (except if its an intervention of friends and family trying to tell you to leave that fuckboy or an abusive asshole).

Victim playing all your life is one of the worst traits. It blocks you from learning to be better, and trust me nobody is perfect and we are here on this planet to learn and be greater at one point and find inner peace. Blaming and never listening might cover you with a little ointment and make you feel right and perfect, but it is just hiding from the real truth that will constantly punch hard.

Lack of personality

Being fake nice to win a woman over lacks any personality and will be noticable in no time. Why would a woman want to be with a boring ass twat who has nothing interesting to say and stand up for himself. The only thing these relationships reach is making the other half become a total control freak.

Confrontation, not agreeing with the other person is normal. You can not live your life accepting everything around yourself and being like a snail that fits every box and not be socially akward.

Never wrong

Random opinions are never facts, that is why we don’t call them so. And everyone has a right to an opinion, bad or good, they come from what we learned.

The self proclaimed good guy never wakes up. He will continuosly blame everyone around himself for his broken relationships and what not, because he never learned to listen, think and CHANGE. We might be born perfect, but by the time we are adults, our upbringing, education, failures in life will make us weird and in need of a lot of self exploration.

Last, but not least…Every woman deep inside wants a nice guy. A true nice guy. Not a man with lack of personality, who sits on your back, but a strong, independent male who will do his best to make you feel happy and respected. A man who does not depend on his “niceness”, a man who can learn from his mistakes and move on.

The worst part is that many people actually start to believe the fact that they want a bad guy and that they are not ok. The more often you hear certain critiques about yourself, the bigger the chance you start to accept them. But do not. If a relationship does not feel right, then it is your right to leave it and feel happier elsewhere. A nice guy is a nice guy when you decide it, not when he does.

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by Zhenya

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