Photographs from a lovely Sunday in Brussels, Belgium
My quirky Aunty Kerry always told me that she has Teflon hands.
I always thought it was a ridiculous theory. But I don’t think I’ve understood it until now.
I’ve realised that I can hold on and wind things around my hands and refuse to let go of little words, small knives and endless conversations that consisted of friends, family members or even enemies words or actions that rooted themselves deep into my veins. I could feel them tug every time I let my mind wander. My mother always used to remind me “Aunty Kerry says, “have Teflon hands. Don’t let it stick to you”
And Ive only just now realised,
I’ve got to get me some of those Teflon hands.
Or better yet,
We have got to let it go.
Let go of the pain
Let go of the hurt
Let go of the feeling of being unwanted, lonely, of being rejected. And STOP hurting ourselves.
See I realised something else, it can creep up on you. The more time you give to a negative thought, the more it grows. Like a weed of darkness pulsing through you, no not them. Through you.
So I’ve written some helpful “F words” to help us all try to move on.
1- Focus.
Enjoy your life. Now this is majorly important as it is YOURS. If you are feeling sad then get a notepad and write down three things that might make you happy in your life, if there’s absolutely nothing then write three things you can change to make yourself feel a bit better. Find stillness, breathe and realise that the circumstances might be dire but you are in control of your own feelings and reactions.
2- Forgive
Forgiveness has nothing to do with “Them” It has everything to do with you. There. I said it. You don’t have to reach out, you don’t have to have the same feelings you did before. Feel the pain then forgive that person, that event, that episode and try to forget and move on.
3- Forget
Now the hardest part. Moving forward. Understand that you are not your past. Understand that the situations and patterns and people in your life created your experiences, they didn’t create you. Accept your history, remember that these experiences do not define you, and empty your cup.
Here’s to Letting go of the past and embracing the future.
