Adulthood is an indicator you need to take control of your finances. Budgeting, saving, dealing with credit cards, and being an uninformed young woman, is a challenge.
Amidst your quest to become an independent adult, you become broke. Right? Guess? You are not alone. If you are struggling to move forward, the idea of controlling your Money and trust in your financial decision making can be pretty intimidating. And that is what happened to me during my search to become a financially independent Pakistani woman.
In addition to jokes we also need a whole This is an important issue here today. "Becoming a completely independent woman is not a walk in the park." And there is a lot that goes into becoming an extremely challenging task
First, there is a sense of shame in connection with the fact that you do not have as much money as you should …
Or can not afford what you could ever … or can not afford what others can. You feel a constant fluctuation of self-esteem with the ups and downs of your bank account. I know.
Fundamental are money and shame the toxic dynamic duo that just does not stop.
Managing personal finances in a balanced way is something that most of us never learn how to do until we are deep in the forest. This is probably because our system for practical education is defective / non-existent. Or because most adults who came before us "bear" this shame and pass it on to us.
The whole & # 39; scarcity-mentality & # 39; -ding is VERY real
Even if we sit in a comfortable place when it comes to money, we cling to our old, dusty financial fears. Sometimes, when we are blessed with abundance, we still take on a less than mentality. We are starving for an open conversation; we are conditioned to make money our enemy.
The money problem is a way of bondage with others, casually!
It is very likely that if the thought of checking the balance of your bank account lets you break out in cold sweat. You have quite a few people around you who reinforce this. Family, friends, co-workers, media personalities – "money shame" is everywhere. Just like casual negativity, money problems can be a way to connect with others: feeling sorry about how expensive something is or how you really can not afford it.
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How do we deal with this?
Apparently there is no specific way to deal with this. You learn to do this type of management in the course of time. However, I have a few tips that can help you get better.
Review your financial history.
I recently had the experience that I made more money than I did 4 months ago, while I stressed so hard all month that I broke. So think back to a time when you felt like you had nothing. Then think of a time that felt more abundant. Remind yourself that money ebbs and flows just like the weather and waves of the ocean.
Everyone has had these ebbs and streams. We just do not hear about them. And no, you can not just sit back and wait. But as long as you are proactive, not reactive. ESPECIALLY, when it is the most difficult; there is more on the way.
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I remember when I went to the bank for the first time, I did not know anything. I felt the need to be educated about bills and finances, at least I should have known the basic knowledge. But it is never too late to learn anything.
Knowledge is really power and wealth. Buy what for your financial management. Even if everything you read sounds like a foreign language at first, just read. Stay as much as possible. You will understand the concepts just as you practice things.
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IT WORKS! This may sound counter-intuitive, but if you feel that financial anxiety makes its way into your mind, give out a bit to someone. It does not have to be a very large amount. Maybe your housekeeper can get a new uniform or a school bag for his child. Or buy a coffee / chai for your colleague.
To combat the feelings of nothing, we must actively create a sense of positivity. It is about cultivating value and value. The fact that you can give enough to make someone else smile can cause a chain reaction in your brain and heart, making you feel really rich.
Source: Deedle Dee Productions The art of mastering the spender & # 39; s regret
Yes, it is an art that we all can hardly learn. First we buy something and later we realize that we could have bought something better. * sigh * Occurs every time I buy impulsively, which normally happens when someone else's opinion (seller, friend, family, advertisement you've seen on Facebook) is more important than mine. But we can prevent it.
Via Tenor Let me ask you a question: if you have a certain amount that you can spend, how do you choose to spend it ?
If a new outfit costs just as much as a party in an expensive restaurant with friends, it's quite a damn good outfit. What it comes down to is, compare and contrast with the ways in which you spend your money, not only encourages you to slow down your impulses, but also gives you control over the direction in which your bank account is going.
Via Tenor These are the small principles that I have recently have followed It does not matter what the ebbs and flows of your finances look like, feeling in control and financially independent is something that is incomparable.I have decided that my experiences with money, very much or very little of it, my emotions and dictate my quality of life.
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