Being a working Woman has advantages, but a working Pakistani woman brings with it much more negativity. Do not get me wrong – just like you are and I will always be a proud Pakistani. But if there are other people like me who are absolutely tired of being accused of being independent and self-sufficient, trust me, you want to read this.

You are expected to become a robot

You have to be an all-in-one good-looking, loving, g hardener , responsible, independent, but also dependent girl. Or else you will constantly be taunted with things like:

" Betay apna ghar ko mat ignore karo."

"Parents ko time dia karo."

"Meri bahu toh mere khidmat he nahi karti."

All the time the brother / father / husband is spoiled only because has been with Kar kak se for centuries. Working women are not robots. Let us not forget that a housewife or housewife is a HUGE task in itself. Add to that the responsibility of the work. Hadh hai yaar. Easy ho jao.

At least once in your working life, monkey par line maari jae ge. And you have to pretend you're totally at it (AWKWARD)

Once upon a time is an understatement. Wherever you are in the world, a colleague, a superior or just a random guy from the company will hit you and you will have to ignore awkwardly what else has happened. & # 39; You are unprofessional & # 39 ;.

It is uncomfortable and sometimes disgusting. Unfortunately, it is a reality that I (and many other women) have to deal with. And no, it is not because of how we dress or behave. No matter how reserved you are, someone will cross the border.

I am constantly told that my income is not barkat

Where is that even written? Like, please show me? Along with a thousand other rules that have just been written for us, no matter what happens. Why are my earnings not as important as someone else's? Am I destined to meet the needs of everyone else and at the same time kill my ambition?

Ajeeb baqwas hai.

More often than not, I have been told that "kaam karni wali larkiyan ghar nahi basa sakteen."

Again, who is checking these rules? And why? And agar basa lia toh? Do I get a medal or something? No? I thought so.

"Kaam karti hai toh azaad khayal hogi after, aise larkian kahan achi biwian banti hain."

Seriously, the connection man can not find …

Maids apparently have their own

Mardon k sath kaam karti hai? Hawww.

Itna make up cart k jati hai? Hawww.

Every aunt on the street will keep an eye on you. Even if you make yourself presentable in the morning, phir bhi descend me kuch kaala hai. If you look good, you are indecent. If you do not look good, you are sick or do not take your work seriously. Matlab hadh hai. Monkey apna business nahi mind karte? Haww.

Oh and apparently as I deserve, I am overconfident or arrogant.

Because there is no place to be an independent woman who has a good self-esteem and speaks the truth. Of course, let's go in a different direction. Aurat jo hai she is meant to remain weak and powerless, haina?

It is really like you can not win.

See, it is not even about feminism or empowerment of women. It is only about the basic humanity. A man can seldom do what a woman does, but if a woman decides to play both roles and juggle with all her responsibilities, she must be confronted by society with constant drama and mental torture and yet they laugh as if it is not a big deal. As a working Pakistani woman, everything I want is empathy and acceptance. Is that really too much to ask?

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