Body. There are places on it, the caressing of which gives us a lot of pleasure. But sometimes the pleasure is accompanied by surprising feelings of embarrassment or even shivers of dislike or pain. The bottom, for example, is particularly sensitive to touch. However, we also received embarrassing spankings, painful belt blows, and injections as children. When a man strokes, caresses, kisses a woman’s buttocks – she feels wonderful. Sometimes, however, sensual pleasure is accompanied by a shadow of embarrassment, reluctance, and even pain. From where? It’s easy to think that she just doesn’t want him touching her, that she doesn’t love him. Not at all. Her feelings may stem from the past, from what she experienced as a child, which she seemed to have no memory of. She doesn’t remember, but her body seems to have recorded these painful sensations. And now, thanks to the excitement of sex, what she felt then “came out of the body to the surface of consciousness.” If she lacks curiosity about why this reluctance, she may decide that she does not like caressing or even sex at all. He can reject a person close to him.
– It would be a pity, because the body can be cleansed of painful experiences and opened to the natural feeling of pleasure – says Grzegorz Pawłowski, breathwork trainer and life coach. “Transforming breath will help us do that.
It is a technique of freeing oneself from painful experiences by working with the breath. Psychiatrist Wilhelm Reich and psychologist Alexander Lowen are precursors of psychotherapy through body and breath. Their path is continued by Grzegorz Pawłowski, the creator of the practice of transforming breath.
“The use of transformative breath does not require a hundred years of practice or special skills,” explains the life coach. – To begin with, just focus on your breath, imagining that it is reaching the place where you feel ashamed or in pain. Visualize yourself breathing in this place in the body. Then, with each exhalation, the body cleanses itself, and we regain the natural way of feeling.
Of course, this does not happen immediately, sometimes several sessions are necessary, but always, regardless of what the cause of the “disorder” was, breathing helps.
– Sex is a peri-therapeutic space, because it can awaken surprising sensations. It triggers feelings that we have cut ourselves off a long time ago, says Grzegorz Pawłowski. “That’s why sometimes in bed a woman cries and a man feels angry, or vice versa – a man feels like a little boy and a woman is disappointed. No matter what feeling arose, with it appears the one who experienced it, which is usually us from the time when we were children.
Transformational breath can help a crying
