All healthy relationships, whether platonic or romantic, require Boundaries. Mutually beneficial relationships are dependent upon clear boundaries in order to function seamlessly.

Often times people think of relationship boundaries as a controlling set of rules, but the reality is that boundaries aren’t about the other person, they are about you. Relationship boundaries are about setting your own limits and learning how to work with the limitations  of your partner in order to effectively work together to maintain a healthy relationship.

Below I will outline some guidelines to help you establish clear boundaries in your relationship.

Know what you want

It’s important to know what you want prior to entering a new relationship. If you know what you want and perhaps more importantly what you don’t want, you will be prepared to articulate those feelings to your partner. Prior to embarking on a new relationship take some time to reflect on what you are looking for and take note of your dealbreakers. Being indecisive will lead to drama later down the line.

Be clear and direct

As a Sugar Daddy you may be looking for a Sugar Baby who will accommodate your busy schedule without much notice so that is something you need to make known from the beginning. Not all Sugar Babies are willing to drop everything for their Sugar Daddies so if this is a deal breaker for you, be sure to discuss this early on.

As a Sugar Baby you might be seeking a monthly allowance instead of extravagant gifts and vacations. Again this is something you should discuss fairly early in your relationship because not all men are willing to commit to a monthly allowance.

Set Limits

Sugar relationships have some fundamental differences from traditional relationships which is why they may require unique limitations and boundaries. .

Communication

Is there a limit to how often you would like your SB or SD to contact you? Do you prefer they only contact you at certain times? If so, these limits should be made to clear to those involved.

Social Media

With the large generational gap that often accompanies Sugar relationships, it’s important to understand that your stance on social media may differ from your partner. As a couple you should discuss whether it is alright to share photos of each other on social platforms. Whether you agree or not it’s best to respect how your partner feels regarding this matter.

Exclusivity

Navigating this topic can be tricky because exclusivity isn’t always expected in Sugar relationships. Both parties should express their expectations regarding this matter. If you are not willing to enter into an exclusive relationship be honest so your partner can decide if they wish to continue the arrangement.

Remember, boundaries only work if they are made clear to those involved. Additionally, boundaries can change so it’s a good to check in every so often and make sure everyone is still on the same page.

A post from SeekingArrangement Blog.