In case you really feel such as you continuously overlook issues, your to-do listing is at all times a mile lengthy, and you might be pressured extra days than not, it’s time to have a look at your routines.

Routines don’t need to be boring and mundane. No routines will be easy and simple and provide you with extra time to do the belongings you get pleasure from or relaxation.

On this episode, I’ll share the three important routines that each one mothers want. Plus, I’ll share just a few extra routines when you’ve got the highest 3 down pack.

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In case you really feel such as you’re continuously forgetting issues, or your To Do lists is at all times a mile lengthy, and also you’re pressured extra days than not, it’s time to have a look at your routines that you just see routines don’t need to be boring and mundane. No routines will be easy and simple and truly can help you have extra time to do the belongings you get pleasure from, or simply get some relaxation. On this episode, I’m going to be sharing with you three important routines that each one mothers want. Plus, I’ll share just a few extra routines that when you’ve got these central ones down pack, there’s some extra you could truly stage and do much more. My identify is Toni-Ann. And I’m the host of the actual blissful mother Podcast. I’m a full time working mother right here to assist busy working mothers who need assistance with time administration, reaching their large targets with out pulling their hair out. And on this episode, I’m going to share with you some routines that will help you do exactly that. Let’s go forward and bounce on in. Earlier than we dive into this episode, when you’ve got been a longtime listener and by no means left a ranking, or overview, I invite you to do this immediately. Leaving a 5 star ranking overview actually takes you only a few seconds. So all you need to simply hit pause and scroll all the way down to the place you see the celebrities and depart charge and overview. And go forward and hit that rock star in case you don’t thoughts, as a result of it helps me out greater than you realize. And truthfully typically I really feel like I’m speaking to myself. So it’s useful to know that the issues that I’m sharing right here on this podcast are useful for you. And on high of that, it will get the message out to different mothers that this can be a nice podcast to hearken to, and will get the attain out much more. So even that charge and overview helps me out so a lot. And I’d be so grateful in case you would do this for me immediately. Now, after I first grew to become a mother, I had this concept in my head that motherhood would look a sure approach. And I’ll always remember working round making an attempt to do all the things in the home. Not likely having any rhyme or motive. However simply feeling stressed more often than not. And the issue was is I used to be making an attempt to do all the things. However there was no order to it. There was no construction, it was identical to I used to be placing out fires many of the day. And since there was solely a brief period of time that the child was sleeping, a number of instances I knew I had a couple of minutes to get some issues finished. However as a result of I seemed round and felt so defeated, I’d simply choose up my telephone and begin scrolling, simply to move the time away and to form of ease my anxiousness. After which I realized about routines. Particularly, these three routines that I’m going to share with you. And so they have fully modified the way in which I’ve operated all through the day, and triggered me to be much less pressured as a result of I do know precisely when issues are going to occur throughout the day. And I do know that all the things will get finished. Now earlier than we bounce into these routines, I do know you’re most likely pondering, nicely, Tony and like why routines? Properly, there’s a number of advantages to routines, let me let you know, they may help you when instances are unpredictable, particularly when there’s instances of uncertainty, like when there was a pandemic. They may help when you find yourself pressured so to have that predictability in your life routines truly assist with decreasing the quantity of selections that you just make all through the day, which I talked about extensively after I discuss one other routine that I really like speaking about, specifically, about choice fatigue, as a result of a number of instances as mother, we’ve so many choices that we’ve to make. And if we will eradicate a number of these choices, it should assist forestall us from attending to the purpose of choice fatigue, which leaves us at a degree the place we both don’t make choices or make actually poor selections. So routines assist with decreasing the quantity of selections that we’ve to make every day. Additionally, it helps forestall these lengthy to do lists. As a result of when you’ve got routines already in place, you don’t have to have a brilliant lengthy to do listing. And also you don’t have to really feel such as you continuously have to mind dump on a regular basis, as a result of you’ve so many issues that it’s essential to get finished. As a result of you’ve routines which might be taking good care of all these issues. Additionally, routines assist us to remain on monitor, each mentally and bodily. In addition they assist with creating a way of manageability in our lives, and likewise helps to liberate some house in our minds in order that we will truly be extra inventive. Now I do know for teenagers, you realize all the advantages. For teenagers, it’s actually, actually essential that children have routines as a result of it helps them to really feel like they’re in management of their atmosphere. They really feel protected and safe and comfy. In addition they know what is occurring and what’s going to return subsequent. And so they know tips on how to do sure actions as a result of they’re used to doing issues in a sure approach in a sure trend. And it additionally helps with partaking with studying. So now that I share with you all the advantages of routines and why it’s so essential for us as mothers and for the youngsters, so Do have routines. Let’s discuss these three important routines. Now I do know you’ve been listening to me discuss them. And also you’re questioning what are these three important routines, Tony. And nicely, these three central routines that I believe that each one mothers ought to have are a extremely good morning routine, a night routine, and a Sunday routine. Now, a morning routine, I really feel like is actually, actually useful in setting the intention for the day and getting you in the correct headspace. However truthfully, issues truly begin the day earlier than. So in episode quantity 73, I talked to Kiana and he or she stated it greatest when she stated {that a} key to an excellent morning routine is a night routine. And having a night routine helps to reduce the work that it’s essential to do within the morning. So you’ll be able to deal with setting these intentions and the tone for the day along with your morning routine. So what are a few of these issues that take into account on your night routine, a few of these issues shall be like getting your lunches prepared for the subsequent day, trying and seeing what’s for breakfast for the subsequent day, even getting out dinner for the subsequent day. So for me, I do know typically like tomorrow, we’re gonna have some hen and rice, I have to take the hen out of the freezer can begin to thaw out. So I’ll take the hen out, put it within the fridge, let it thaw out. So I’ll have it able to go for the subsequent day. Even simply merely getting the punches just about arrange. Not essentially saying that you need to like pack the lunches. However getting issues able to go helps to reduce what it’s essential to do within the morning. After which additionally helps so that you just don’t need to make choices within the morning and expend that brainpower that I used to be speaking about that finally results in choice fatigue in case you’re making too many choices. Another issues that you are able to do within the night is simply form of reviewing the day checking off to do listing. Additionally, I wish to journal, it actually helps to get a few of these issues out of my thoughts. And onto paper. And it’s actually therapeutic. In case you haven’t tried it, positively do this. One other factor that you are able to do is simply merely simply tidying up. And tidying up is one thing that you just’ll hear me discuss usually with a few of these routines, as a result of I really feel like a number of instances mothers get annoyed when their home is trying a multitude. And so they need their home to look clear. Or they are saying they need their home to look clear. However many instances they simply need their home to be tidy. So for me, after I consider clear, I’m pondering of scrubbing the flooring, getting all of the filth and the grime out, you realize, wiping all the things down, getting all the things tremendous good, clear. So you’ll be able to like just about eat up the flooring. That’s what I’m serious about after I’m saying clear. However a number of instances mothers simply need the home to be tidy. As a result of what number of instances do you are available in a room and it’s only a full mess, and you are feeling such as you’re about to lose it as a result of the home is a multitude once more. So dissembling tidying issues up. Simply placing issues again into the correct place will assist with feeling like you’re going to lose it as a result of the home is a multitude once more. And bear in mind, you don’t need to do all of this your self, you will get the assistance of the youngsters and your companion to assist with getting issues again so as and getting issues tidy. So like I stated, what the night routine is all about setting issues up and getting issues prepared for the subsequent day. We wish to actually get ourselves in a spot the place all the things is able to go. So God forbid, the alarm doesn’t go off on time, you’ll be able to rapidly prepare and be out of the door in file time with out feeling such as you forgot something. Another issues you could take into account. And your night routine could be issues like having some household time. Additionally performing some one on one time with the youngsters, it might simply be one thing actually easy and simple. Additionally checking your calendar to see what you’ve occurring for the subsequent day. And prepping something that you just want, and ensuring it’s out and prepared. additionally reviewing any communication from the youngsters college, as a result of what number of instances have they despatched out reminders for various spirit days and totally different actions that they’ve. And people issues have gone unnoticed. So checking the backpack helps out rather a lot so you’ll be able to know precisely what’s occurring. After which lastly, serving to the youngsters get their backpacks prepared for the subsequent college day. So once more, night routine, it’s all about getting issues prepared for the subsequent day. Now the morning routine for me is all about setting the intentions for the day. Like how would you like your day to go? So for me, I like to spend my time using progress day. girthy is a private improvement app developed by Brendan Bouchard,

who’s my coach whereas I say he’s my coach in my head. I can’t afford it Brendon, however I really like Brendon and all of the issues that he shares, however I spend time simply listening to a few of his Private improvement workshops or simply some fast, every day form of motivational issues to form of get my thoughts in the correct place, as a result of typically I get up and I cannot be within the temper for doing something. However getting my thoughts in the correct spot with truly listening to a few of the every day fires, and even a few of the workshops on ladies day are tremendous, tremendous helpful. So what are some issues that you are able to do to get your thoughts and get you in the correct intention and setting the correct tone for the day? May it’s taking a stroll? May it’s stretching or ingesting some water? May it’s ensuring that you just’re having some actually good snacks able to go so that you just’re not mechanically grabbing on your watch? And we’ll name it or the chips, as a result of these are like my favourite issues, which my colleagues are all the things to me. However in any case, what are you able to do to get your self arrange and in the correct tone and intention for the day. So take into consideration that whenever you’re growing your morning routine. So bear in mind, like I stated, the night routine goes that will help you with getting issues prepared for the morning. So all you’re doing within the morning is setting your intentions for the day, and getting issues are off to an excellent begin. Now, the final routine that I really like, love speaking about that I really feel like is crucial for working mothers with little youngsters is a Sunday routine. Now a Sunday routine is one thing that I’ve talked about on earlier episodes. However I’m simply going to rapidly run by way of a few of the issues to incorporate in your Sunday routine. Now all of the Sunday routine is for is actually simply serving to to get you prepared for the week. So once more, you’re not making so many choices all through the day, and the week. So a few of the easy issues that I love to do on Sundays to get me prepared for the week is actually 5 core issues, there’s a number of different issues you could add to it. However 5 core issues to do on Sundays to assist put together for the week. And that’s cleansing out your purse or your bag, no matter you’re taking to work every single day. As a result of a number of issues accumulate in there, it’s essential to get these issues out. And typically it’s possible you’ll discover some hidden gems or an additional greenback on the backside of your purse. So go forward and clear that out. The subsequent factor is getting your garments prepared for the week, so that you just don’t have to consider what you’re sporting. And if this matches with that, or if that shirt has a snag in it or holding it. What am I going to do now, as a result of I don’t have one other shirt to interchange it. So actually getting your garments out, ensuring all the things is prepared and good to go for the week. The third factor is meal planning or meal prepping for the week. So I identical to to make a easy menu for the week what’s already within the fridge. So I look and see what we have already got occurring and put collectively a menu Monday by way of Friday or Saturday relying on how issues are going. And write out what the youngsters and I are having for breakfast, lunch and dinner. So I do know precisely what we’re having every day. So I don’t have to fret about what to cook dinner as a result of it’s already on the menu, you’ll be able to take it a step additional and go forward and begin prepping a few of these issues. In order that issues are able to go for the week. And that’s one thing that I’ve been making an attempt to work on. And I’ve been so pleased with myself as a result of I’ve truly been meal prepping. And it’s been a lifesaver. And solely it’s been a few hours. And it saves me tons of time all through the week within the kitchen. The fourth factor to do and your Sunday routine is planning out your week. So that you wish to take a look at everybody’s calendar, together with your companion, your youngsters, take a look at the calendar and see what they’ve occurring. And ensure that there’s no schedule conflicts, just be sure you have all the things able to go that you just’re ready for the week. Like for me, my work, we are likely to have potlucks as soon as a month. So I have to know what they have been having the potlucks the place there’s a gathering, I have to know what day the assembly is on, in order that I can have issues ready and able to go. So by no means ever stunned what’s going on within the week. As a result of I’ve already checked everybody’s schedule. I do know precisely what’s occurring. So I’m able to go. After which the final and ultimate factor to do on Sunday to get you prepared for the week is restarting your gadgets, as a result of we depend on our gadgets a lot all through the week. And one factor that sucks is when your gadgets are working gradual or when your gadgets are continuously crashing. And it’s as a result of there’s so many purposes working within the background. So restarting your gadgets helps to shut all the things out so your gadgets can run easily with out the crashes and with out the updates in the midst of you making an attempt to get on a zoom name or the sudden crash whenever you’re making an attempt to make a name or making an attempt to present somebody some data. So let me run by way of these actually fast so far as the Sunday routine. So that you wish to clear out your purse, get your garments prepared for the week. Get the meals deliberate and prepped probably. Then you definately wish to plan out your week and your schedule for what you’ve occurring. After which lastly, restarting your gadgets. So I simply went over to the three primary routines that you just want. In case you are a busy working mother, I do know that there’s a lot occurring and having these three routines have been actually helped to make issues a complete lot higher for you. Now, earlier than you go in, and also you attempt to overhaul all the things that you’ve occurring, what you’re doing in your routines proper now, earlier than you attempt to change something, what are issues which might be going nicely, what are some issues that aren’t going so nicely, and begin to see a few of the small issues you could start to tweak so to have that nice morning routine, or have that night routine that units you up for the subsequent day? Or have that superior Sunday routine in order that your weeks run easily? After which additionally, you wish to take a look at your routines that you have already got proper now? And see what’s the final result that you just’re seeking to obtain? So in your morning routine, are you seeking to really feel a bit bit extra energized? Are you seeking to really feel a bit bit extra comfy? What’s it that you just’re seeking to obtain with these routines, and actually begin to form of work from there on growing what you wish to do in these routines so to be doing one thing that’s working for you and never simply one thing that Tony informed you to do on episode 195. Now, when you’ve got these three routines, and they’re down packed, and also you’re like okay, Tony, yeah, I’ve obtained that I’ve obtained that all the things is working good. Listed below are a pair different routines to consider and to see in case you can start to include into your days and weeks. Having an after college routine, so issues that you’re doing with the youngsters after they get house from college, in order that they aren’t simply throwing all the things down and working off and making a multitude someplace. So the youngsters know precisely the place to place their their backpacks. They know tips on how to unpack all the things, take their lunchboxes, put them wherever it must be, no matter it’s, that’s going to assist make issues simpler for you after college. One other routine is having a cleansing routine so that you just’re not having to really feel such as you’re cleansing each single day. The subsequent one is having a weakened reset routine. So one thing that lets you form of reset and prepare for Mondays so that you just’re going into the week feeling refreshed. One other routine that I truly began incorporating is a magnificence routine. And that is simply one thing that you just’re doing to tips on how to handle your your pores and skin, your nails your hair, simply so that you just’re at all times feeling and searching like your greatest as a result of there’s nothing worse than feeling like your hair is a multitude and also you’re simply trying tremendous raggedy. And it’s since you simply haven’t had any time to essentially spend on your self getting these issues down pack. So having a magnificence routine so that you’re ensuring that you’re retaining your hair trying good and ensuring your nails are at the very least trimmed and searching presentable. As a result of we at all times wish to look our greatest in order that we will really feel our greatest. So having a magnificence routine can be a enjoyable solution to ensure that all the things is taken care of. Subsequent one is having a exercise routine. You all know that having a exercise routine, even when it’s simply one thing you do at house can actually be helpful. After which a laundry routine. That is one factor that I’ve heard many alternative methods of doing laundry. When of my mates Ashley from routine and issues she has an episode, Episode 122, the place she talks about her laundry routine. So in case you’re like Tony, and my laundry is a multitude right here, examine that episode out and see if that helps. After which lastly, a pair others are having some seasonal routines, journey routines, non secular routines, tidy routines. Once more, all of those routines are simply form of subsequent stage to essentially make issues even simpler and even higher for you on your days and

weeks. So that’s it for this episode. I do know I shared rather a lot with you immediately. In case you are driving or doing laundry, otherwise you’re simply out and about and you aren’t in a position to write any of these items down, don’t fret, simply head on over to Actual blissful mother.com/ 195. And there you’ll discover the present notes, and all the things that I discussed there. Now earlier than I depart, I really need you to learn about this superior useful resource that I’ve for you known as house life Trello. And I do know that we’re nonetheless initially of the 12 months, and also you most likely obtained this new planner, pondering it was going that will help you to be tremendous organized. Or possibly you’re feeling like oh, if I observe precisely what that productiveness progress is instructing. Possibly I’ll lastly be this productiveness ninja that I’ve at all times wished to be. However you end up not having sufficient time. You’re not getting something cross off your to do listing. I’ve an answer for you as a result of I’ve been there. And I’ve discovered an superior useful resource known as Trello that has helped to rework the way in which I’m doing issues in my days or perhaps weeks. Now in case you haven’t heard of Trello Trello is a free app that lets you get issues organized and free For me, it helps to get my mind organized in a approach that is sensible. Now Trello has been the explanation why I’ve had a lot success at house and with actual blissful mother due to the techniques that I created, all of which you will discover in my new useful resource known as house like Trello. House like Trello is a system for varied areas of your life that features video programs, and different techniques all wrapped up in a single. It’s a system that you just want all field collectively so to present up like a boss at work and at house. So give your self the reward of house life Trello and a peace of thoughts realizing that there’s a 14 day a reimbursement assure by getting house like Trello so head on over to rob him on.com/trello to go forward and snag it. I promise you, you’ll like it and in case you don’t once more, 14 day a reimbursement assure. All proper. Now that’s it for this week’s episode. Keep tuned for subsequent week for an additional full episode. Take care and with a number of love