It seems that the more we try to defend ourselves, the worse it gets for us.  [These are just my thoughts, you are welcome to disagree with me.]In that vein, I refer to an ad in the NYTimes by the World Values Network which is headed by Rabbi Shmuley Boteach - an ad which seems to have only inflamed the situation.  If you go looking for that ad on Google, all you will find is a mass of links to