Bob Proctor is gaining momentum in his quest to help people reach their goals. More people know who he is because is one of the teachers featured in The Secret. In the following article, he explains the power in taking risks.
Risk Will Set You Free
"You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face."
by Bob Proctor
My dictionary tells me that to risk is "to expose oneself to the chance of loss." I suppose that is true. Another piece of literature I was once given suggests that:
To laugh is to risk appearing the fool.
To weep is to risk appearing sentimental.
To reach out for another is to risk involvement.
To expose feelings is to risk exposing your true self.
To place your ideas, your dreams, before a crowd is to risk their loss.
To love is to risk not being loved in return.
To live is to risk dying.
To hope is to risk despair.
To try is to risk failure.
You may avoid suffering and sorrow if you don't risk, but you simply cannot learn, feel, change, grow, love, or live. The greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing. The person who risks nothing, does nothing and has nothing. Only a person who risks is free.
What causes individuals to shy away from taking a risk, even if it is a low risk and will give them something they really want? Well, certainly high on most people's list would be fear of loss, failure, and perceived humiliation if the loss were to occur. Now, why would we automatically think that we would fail at something? Why wouldn't we first try and see, and then if we did fail, learn from that experience and move on? What causes us to have these thoughts of inferiority?
Since risk-taking, to my knowledge, is not a subject that is taught in school, it would lead me to believe that a person's fear of taking risks might stem from before they can even remember. When you were a child taking your very first steps, it wasn't uncommon to hear one of your parents or guardians say, "Be careful; you might fall." Or, "Don't do that, you'll ..." Though some of this is rhetoric and you don't really pay it much conscious attention, it begins the pattern of playing it safe.
Think of how much better equipped we would be to face life's challenges and succeed if we had repeatedly heard, "Take a chance and don't worry about falling, because you're going to fall ... probably quite often. Falling is an important part of learning." Many of the greatest lessons you'll receive in life are going to come from falling ... from your failures.
Failing will never make you a failure unless you quit. Unfortunately, very few people heard that when they were small. The vast majority of our population has been mentally programmed to play it safe.
Young babies are natural-born risktakers. They never consider the consequences of falling when learning to walk. Falling is simply a natural consequence to learning to walk. I guess you could call it a calculated gamble; it's a prerequisite to mastering a myriad of motor skills required to get you on your feet and moving. It's a natural progression in movement. Why then, wouldn't we stop to consider that any movement into uncharted territory should be viewed with the same consideration? What happens to us?
Why is it that we do not see the process of reaching our goals as having steps similar to the ones the baby must take in order to learn to walk? There will be some stumbling and falling in the learning process, but success can be reached only when we are prepared to take those steps — all of them — even the ones where we may fall down. The real win is the confidence and experience we acquire that translates into new opportunities for growth, enjoyment, and expansion in all areas of our life.
When I was a youngster in school, I participated in track and field. Polevaulting was my specialty; it was the one event I seemed to excel at. I clearly remember knocking that bar flying more often than I cleared it. I also remember I was not very enthusiastic when that happened. Knocking the bar off left me with a feeling that because I had failed, I was a failure. I had failed, and, as I remember, no one advised me of anything different. In retrospect, it would have been an excellent opportunity for one of my teachers to help me understand one of life's greatest lessons. But, it never happened, and it would be many years before I learned the truth, the hard way.
While we're still on the topic of children, I'll throw up another caution flag. There's a four-letter word that most parents use around their children so frequently that the children pick it up and — before too long — it is buried in the treasury of their subconscious mind. That four-letter word is CAN'T. This word has done more damage than a lot of other frownedupon four-letter words put together. I know of some forward-thinking parents who have literally banned that word from their children's vocabulary!
Can't is a word that paralyzes any constructive progress. It switches your mind into a negative mode. It is a fourletter word that will open your mind to a never-ending flow of logical, practical reasons that will enable you to justify why you are not able to do something you sincerely want to accomplish.
The only alternative to that four-letter word is its polar opposite — I CAN. I can is far more important than IQ. You don't necessarily have to be very smart to win ... but you must be willing.
Reaching the goal is not success; success is moving toward the goal. When I was knocking down the cross bar, I was attempting to reach the goal. I was stretching, giving it everything I had. That could hardly be considered failing. Every time I tried to clear the bar, I was risking being ridiculed by the other kids. I risked having them laugh at me when I missed ... and they did laugh. However, every time I ran down the field and lowered the pole into the box, attempting to vault myself over the bar, I was challenging myself. Taking risks is essential when you want to reach a goal, and the purpose of goals is growth. When you challenge yourself, you bring more of yourself to the surface. If you knock the bar flying today, at least you will know you are challenging yourself; you're a success!
If you dream of living your life in a really big way, you must accept risktaking as a very real part of the apprenticeship you must serve. Make a decision right now to change. Decide this very moment there will be no more playing it safe ... no more "saving it for a rainy day" type thinking in your life. When people get caught up in the habit of saving for a rainy day, that is generally what they get ... a rainy day.
I clearly remember the first time I heard Earl Nightingale. Earl was telling a story about a farmer who was out walking in a field. He looked down and saw a tiny pumpkin growing on a vine. Nearby, he spotted a small glass jar. The farmer reached down and placed the tiny pumpkin inside the small jar. The pumpkin continued to grow until it filled the inside of the jar. Beyond that it could not grow.
There are a number of people like that tiny pumpkin. They limit themselves with artificial constraints and refuse to take a risk. They never truly test the strength of their abilities and they never step out and bet on the surest thing in the world ... themselves.
If you hope to accumulate great wealth or achieve high goals, history shows us that it's the first few steps that contain the highest degree of risk. You must turn your back on safety and security and take those steps. To make it big, you must take big risks. You will very likely have to put yourself in a highly vulnerable position. It is also worth remembering you cannot almost take a risk.
Eleanor Roosevelt said, "You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face." Follow her advice and liberate yourself from the crippling emotional state of fear — and enter into a world of freedom.
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Risk Will Set You Free
"You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face."
by Bob Proctor
My dictionary tells me that to risk is "to expose oneself to the chance of loss." I suppose that is true. Another piece of literature I was once given suggests that:
To laugh is to risk appearing the fool.
To weep is to risk appearing sentimental.
To reach out for another is to risk involvement.
To expose feelings is to risk exposing your true self.
To place your ideas, your dreams, before a crowd is to risk their loss.
To love is to risk not being loved in return.
To live is to risk dying.
To hope is to risk despair.
To try is to risk failure.
You may avoid suffering and sorrow if you don't risk, but you simply cannot learn, feel, change, grow, love, or live. The greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing. The person who risks nothing, does nothing and has nothing. Only a person who risks is free.
What causes individuals to shy away from taking a risk, even if it is a low risk and will give them something they really want? Well, certainly high on most people's list would be fear of loss, failure, and perceived humiliation if the loss were to occur. Now, why would we automatically think that we would fail at something? Why wouldn't we first try and see, and then if we did fail, learn from that experience and move on? What causes us to have these thoughts of inferiority?
Since risk-taking, to my knowledge, is not a subject that is taught in school, it would lead me to believe that a person's fear of taking risks might stem from before they can even remember. When you were a child taking your very first steps, it wasn't uncommon to hear one of your parents or guardians say, "Be careful; you might fall." Or, "Don't do that, you'll ..." Though some of this is rhetoric and you don't really pay it much conscious attention, it begins the pattern of playing it safe.
Think of how much better equipped we would be to face life's challenges and succeed if we had repeatedly heard, "Take a chance and don't worry about falling, because you're going to fall ... probably quite often. Falling is an important part of learning." Many of the greatest lessons you'll receive in life are going to come from falling ... from your failures.
Failing will never make you a failure unless you quit. Unfortunately, very few people heard that when they were small. The vast majority of our population has been mentally programmed to play it safe.
Young babies are natural-born risktakers. They never consider the consequences of falling when learning to walk. Falling is simply a natural consequence to learning to walk. I guess you could call it a calculated gamble; it's a prerequisite to mastering a myriad of motor skills required to get you on your feet and moving. It's a natural progression in movement. Why then, wouldn't we stop to consider that any movement into uncharted territory should be viewed with the same consideration? What happens to us?
Why is it that we do not see the process of reaching our goals as having steps similar to the ones the baby must take in order to learn to walk? There will be some stumbling and falling in the learning process, but success can be reached only when we are prepared to take those steps — all of them — even the ones where we may fall down. The real win is the confidence and experience we acquire that translates into new opportunities for growth, enjoyment, and expansion in all areas of our life.
When I was a youngster in school, I participated in track and field. Polevaulting was my specialty; it was the one event I seemed to excel at. I clearly remember knocking that bar flying more often than I cleared it. I also remember I was not very enthusiastic when that happened. Knocking the bar off left me with a feeling that because I had failed, I was a failure. I had failed, and, as I remember, no one advised me of anything different. In retrospect, it would have been an excellent opportunity for one of my teachers to help me understand one of life's greatest lessons. But, it never happened, and it would be many years before I learned the truth, the hard way.
While we're still on the topic of children, I'll throw up another caution flag. There's a four-letter word that most parents use around their children so frequently that the children pick it up and — before too long — it is buried in the treasury of their subconscious mind. That four-letter word is CAN'T. This word has done more damage than a lot of other frownedupon four-letter words put together. I know of some forward-thinking parents who have literally banned that word from their children's vocabulary!
Can't is a word that paralyzes any constructive progress. It switches your mind into a negative mode. It is a fourletter word that will open your mind to a never-ending flow of logical, practical reasons that will enable you to justify why you are not able to do something you sincerely want to accomplish.
The only alternative to that four-letter word is its polar opposite — I CAN. I can is far more important than IQ. You don't necessarily have to be very smart to win ... but you must be willing.
Reaching the goal is not success; success is moving toward the goal. When I was knocking down the cross bar, I was attempting to reach the goal. I was stretching, giving it everything I had. That could hardly be considered failing. Every time I tried to clear the bar, I was risking being ridiculed by the other kids. I risked having them laugh at me when I missed ... and they did laugh. However, every time I ran down the field and lowered the pole into the box, attempting to vault myself over the bar, I was challenging myself. Taking risks is essential when you want to reach a goal, and the purpose of goals is growth. When you challenge yourself, you bring more of yourself to the surface. If you knock the bar flying today, at least you will know you are challenging yourself; you're a success!
If you dream of living your life in a really big way, you must accept risktaking as a very real part of the apprenticeship you must serve. Make a decision right now to change. Decide this very moment there will be no more playing it safe ... no more "saving it for a rainy day" type thinking in your life. When people get caught up in the habit of saving for a rainy day, that is generally what they get ... a rainy day.
I clearly remember the first time I heard Earl Nightingale. Earl was telling a story about a farmer who was out walking in a field. He looked down and saw a tiny pumpkin growing on a vine. Nearby, he spotted a small glass jar. The farmer reached down and placed the tiny pumpkin inside the small jar. The pumpkin continued to grow until it filled the inside of the jar. Beyond that it could not grow.
There are a number of people like that tiny pumpkin. They limit themselves with artificial constraints and refuse to take a risk. They never truly test the strength of their abilities and they never step out and bet on the surest thing in the world ... themselves.
If you hope to accumulate great wealth or achieve high goals, history shows us that it's the first few steps that contain the highest degree of risk. You must turn your back on safety and security and take those steps. To make it big, you must take big risks. You will very likely have to put yourself in a highly vulnerable position. It is also worth remembering you cannot almost take a risk.
Eleanor Roosevelt said, "You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face." Follow her advice and liberate yourself from the crippling emotional state of fear — and enter into a world of freedom.
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