Hi,

In Buddhism it is highly encouraged to let go. You've been insulted, let go. You've been hit, let go. Someone has disrespected you, let go.

Until certain point it makes sense. Nothing to defend. Nothing to worry about. But I notice that people, will disrespect you more and/or take you for granted if you don't be Confrontational. But then there is nothing to defend right?

I am having conflicting thoughts between being confrontational VS not saying anything.

There is this story about a snake hissing but not biting. But I am not sure when should I hiss and how to hiss. And what does even hissing mean in todays world.

I am afraid of being confrontational because I don't like violence, and people usually fight for nothing in today's society. Few weeks ago, some guy actually touched my girlfriends ass. He was drunk and he was surrounded by friends. I didn't even know what to do. Confronting him would end up in me getting beaten up, letting it go just doesn't seem right other option would be to call the cops but they would laugh at you for such a "small" thing.

I feel that I can't do anything about it. I try to Avoid violence whenever I can, but I feel like I am acting like a doormat by letting go a lot of things.

I am suffering a lot about this issue.

Please help

Thank you