Can we ever afford to pay for happiness? A lot of preachers and philosophers have often time said that Happiness is a choice. That happiness is something we create from deep within. They advice that we should not allow anyone upset us or get us offended. Always ignore the behavior of others, be strong and learn to deal decisively with those who try to steal your happiness.
This counsel or philosophy sounds so true and wise but in practical terms, it is unrealistic. Human beings are emotional beings designed to feel or react to any kind of word they hear. Humans can react to any kind of act or attitude directed to them whether it is good or bad. Our ability to feel one another is coded in our emotions and this is a necessary part of our existence. Our emotion is the necessary catalyst that motivates us, empowers us an inspire most of what we do. Humans act and react based on feelings.
It is an emotional decision to get rid of sentiments when people close to you constantly does things that gets on your nerve and makes you unhappy, it will definitely get to you. If you are being lied to, cheated, oppressed, looked down on, abused, accused, disrespected, you will definitely feel it but you can choose not to act in anger or disapproval.
When you are continually treated wrongly and unfairly, denied your right and benefit, you can never truly be happy. You cannot surround yourself with people that hurt you regularly and try to create happiness within it. It is perpetually impossible to create happiness for yourself in the midst of perpetual pain and injustice.
You cannot remain in a sad situation and try to create happiness within sadness. You cannot create happiness by denying the reality of the hurt and pain that you feel. Happiness doesn’t come by pretending that a cause of pain doesn’t. Happiness is truly created by confronting the pain factors, situations and people that make you unhappy.
You cannot confess happiness; neither can you wish for it. True happiness does not come by going for happiness itself. It comes when we work on the components that bring true happiness. The ability to laugh genuinely in the midst of painful situation doesn’t come by denial but by working on the component for true happiness.
COMPONENTS THAT MAKES FOR TRUE HAPPINESS
A Clear Conscience: No matter how famous you become, if you are having a guilty conscience, you can never be happy. If you have been treacherously mean and unkind towards others, you can never be happy because you conscience is already filled with guilt. A guilty mind before God can never be happy.
2 Serenity: This is a state of being calm, peaceful and untroubled. It is difficult to live in serenity if you have sown seeds of evil and wickedness in time past. A man who has stolen before will always believe that everybody is a thief. If you have broken someone’s heart before in a relationship, you will always believe it will happen to your children.
Be quick to always ask for forgiveness from those you offended in other to live a trouble free, peaceful and calm life
Pursuit: This is activated when you have goals you are working at. The thought of achieving set goals on a daily basis, has a way of crating excitement and happiness. When we don’t set goals, each day will be empty, lonely, sad and boring. You must have a vision to pursue.
4 Healthy living: A life of total disregard for health has its own implications. Health is wealth. When you consume toxic content, over eat and become over weight, you can never be happy. Healthy living makes you happy.
5 Love: You need to love someone and be loved in return. Love makes a person happy. Everyone wants to be loved, encouraged, motivated and pampered, protected and secured. But nowadays, marriages and relationships are experiencing exploitation and not true love. Almost everything has become conditional; many earn the affection, attention, security and care even with cash or kind. This frustrates every affair. True love is genuine and from the heart.
6 Money: Money can buy happiness. When you can afford to pay all your bills and afford all the good things you need in life, it will make you happy. Money is a key component for happiness. Poverty and insufficiency makes one afraid, insecure and disrespected. Money is important in life to be happy.
True happiness is the ability to change you pain factors and embrace the components that makes for happiness.
FRANKLY SPEAKING
MUYIWA AFOLABI
