It’s been some time since my last post on our new Shibari fetish. And over time, we’ve gotten better at it and keep finding ways to make it more enjoyable and exciting. In my last post, it was more of a how we got into Shibari (click to read that). But today’s post is about being open to exploring fetishes with your partner.
You may feel that you have a weird fetish that no one would understand... or maybe feel that your boring ass partner is not into any fetishes at all! But I assure you that your assumptions are probably untrue!
Have an open and honest chat with your partner about it. Finding out that my husband is game to do lots of stuff that would shock our neighbours (maybe the whole estate too lol), actually makes me feel very close to him. It’s our special thing that we get to experience only with each other.
Here is a Fetish Checklist to explore (add your own fetish if it’s not in here yet). The easiest thing to do would be to each tick off stuff on this list which you are open to trying. Then exchange lists with each other and see what matches. This is a random list, there are some things on there that even I would not be comfortable trying... but I’m just listing the possibilities. Do edit the list to include stuff I’ve missed out.
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Please Tick All that you would not mind trying:
1. BDSM
- Shibari or bondage with ropes
- Blindfolds
- Whips or crops
2. Voyeurism / Exhibitionism
- Watch porn together
- Make your own sex tape (for your own private viewing of course)
- Quickie in public place
3. Anal
- Butt plugs
- Digital penetration (fingers)
- Anal penetration
4. Roleplay
- Sexy costumes
- Sexy costumes + take on a character
- In public (e.g. play boss and secretary in his actual office!)
5. Sex toys
- Use a vibrator or dildo together
- Use nipple clamps
- Use a cock ring
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A word of caution. Don’t force yourself or your partner to try any of these things. And don’t get caught up in the idea of being sexually adventurous. If you make checking each item off of the list a die die must do and prove something kind of goal rather than simply finding pleasure in it, you run the risk of killing the pleasure of intimacy with your loved one.
