"I am quite afraid that I may not be alive to see your Marriage, and those ensuing joy filled moments.", Says Grandpa with a frowned face.
What do you think, a responsible grand daughter could reply ?
Will she say, "I don't need to bother about your death bed wishes, live as long as you wish but do not push me for experiencing a nuptial knot ?."
Most of the grand daughter's mind voice would be echoing the above phrase.
However, they do not, can not have courage or ironical heart to convey the rough response through their mouth.
Because, it was those withered skins which held them up in the air while the girl's parents' were busy making money for their future days.
It was those impaired ears, which acted sharp and swift for the calls,
"Thathaa !!! cockroach!!! in my room. come save me..."
and so the very same anemic limbs of now ran fast to save his angel from the clutches of minute cockroach by then.
Such pressures blows within the body of the girl who is at her early 20's,
pounds through heart, mind and everything.
Firstly, she asks for some time, she says she needs much more time to understand herself and whether she is capable of handling the aplenty roles coming aboard as a home maker, working woman, perhaps as sister in law and mother in law.
Such circumstances holds a plethora of views and opinions.
To the parents, its about perfect timings, better families, and matching astrology.
To the senior most people, it is a question of witnessing a extravaganza, overseeing the transformation of baby stepping in to a bigger school of womanhood.
To the Family, it is a time to have fun along with the 'long time no see' family members.
And
at times, it is also all about the display screen for the family, for portraying their caste's potential to the public for wooing the neighbors with ecstatic foods and receiving with dazzling outfits.
'One day match?'
But to the girl, her only concern should be and will be "Will I be living the life I wished or my family's ?."
Heart would regret for not satisfying the wishes of people who held her up and cared her like an angel.
On the other hand, it buzzes her like she has missed some of her individuality to lead a life she wished.
Among the abnormalities, adding insult to the injury....
Saddened father and burdened mother might say, "Do you think we will bring worst stuffs for you?"
and continues ...
'It will be us to standby you at all times.
Trust us, we will give you best and we know what you need and when you need.'
All of a sudden, she will get a call to rush home soon, only to see a bunch of men and women dressed up so well, waiting to see her face, alike the way a family goes for picking a car in a showroom.
This part of procedures, I do not know 'How to term it. ?'
Arranged marriages are certainly enjoyable provided the pair along with family is at no urge.
Arranged marriages can be adorable, provided the hearts were not force fixed but attracted alike magnets.
Here, I do not understand why no feminist stand up to oppose the forced marriages for an educated and well settled woman.
Instead of sharping your weapons against men and few animals all the time, why don't you educate the educated families ?
I do accept, such stuffs cannot be imparted from outsider.
Emotional blackmails were there and are there...
When do these moms gonna understand that blackmails can not always necessarily earns an happy ending as they had ?
At least, guys arriving to pick the girls alike the bike models should able to understand the feelings of the woman. There can be no great torture than mental agony to satisfy family, future family and self.
It is so sad to say that forced marriages are almost like prostitution, only difference is former is legal and latter is not. Former is recognized by the society but latter is not.
But few women ending up their lives and dreams with forced marriages or prostitution have an identical source of originating back from their FAMILIES.
Dear families,
Women do have some dreams, they might wanna contribute their families.
They have the dreams to buy their brothers and sisters some beautiful stuffs, they might have some wishes to tour with their friends.
Perhaps they may have some deep desires to continue their friendship even after their respective marriages.
They may feel that they are not yet ready for the knots.
They may feel insecure to step in to a man's life...
Those fears and dreams cannot be quenched with your compromises and emotional extortion.
those brainwashes cannot wash away the stains encountered by two disinterested hearts.
Neither an astrologer can. Not to forget, many guys of today's society equally suffers the outcome of forced bonds, in such circumstances gender is no matter of discussion.
Let the fruits ripe themselves...
Do not blackmail with feelings, do not confess your wishes aka pressures over the creature caught between the transformation of girl in to woman.
It would be great, if you support your sister, friend, or cousin to sustain the pressure as that of encountered by a pressure cooker. There should be hands to wipe the tears vented out as an outcome of emotional extortion.
